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So, I guess Im a little mopey today.
I have been struggling with my weight since I have been a kid. My dad is very old school and english is not his first language, sometimes when he speaks he can come off a little harsh. I have pretty much gained back all the weight I lost over the last year and a half, I before anyone else recognize that. When I see my dad he always makes little comments like "you need to go to the gym this week", or "you are getting bigger, your uniform is too tight, it looks bad". I know there is a language barrier but it hurts more than I think he realizes. Yesterday, I was sick and when I came home from work I started to do homework with my son. I already had the stress of an exam in my head and my dad asks me if I am going to the gym. I tell him no and he replies "when are you going? You have to go soon. " I admit, I snapped a little, I asked when I was supposed to go, between my son, work, school and studying it is hard to make it there before the end of the day. He seemed satisfied with that and said, "well, at least now you know".
I was feeling sick to begin with so I wasn't that hungry but I knew I hadn't eaten much. I guess I also let my dad get the best of me, I couldn't bring myself to eat. I chose instead to go to bed and sleep, I woke up around midnight starving. I made some of my favorite comfort food and I guess it helped that no one was awake. I bought a bike and now that it is warmer I can start to run outside. I guess I will always have that part of me that is sensitive to peoples comments. Im hoping when I reach my goal, because I will, it is something I no longer have to deal with.
Diet Calendar Entry for 29 April 2014:
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1233 kcal
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Fat: 67.03g | Prot: 111.12g | Carb: 48.30g.
Breakfast: Fried Egg. Lunch: Subway Double Chicken Chopped Salad. Dinner: Cooked Green Peppers and Onions (Fat Added in Cooking), Sweet Red Peppers, Tofurky Italian Sausage, Roasted Broiled or Baked Chicken Thigh. Snacks/Other: Trader Joe's Trek Mix. more...
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I know how hard it is. I have faith in you. Maybe you can make 1 small change today for your health, baby steps! You are supported here!
29 Apr 14 by member: Kris AZ
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you can only change yourself. So if you cannot change your fathers behavior, think about how YOU can change how you feel about it! Even if you where to lose weight, the new remarks he's gonna come up with, will hurt just the same. So think of a way to tackle this problem ...
29 Apr 14 by member: puhpine
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29 Apr 14 by member: Mommyruns12
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Sometimes parents dont realize just how hurtful some of there comments about our weight and the way we look can be. I got through some of the same thing "you should go on a walk will help you lose the weight" I know this but having the tell me all the time hurts. You may want to sit down with your dad and let him know that what he is saying is hurtful. You are under enough stress as is. I think a bike is great tho because depending on how far from work or school you are you can sometimes chose to ride your bike there instead of driving. I know you can lose that weight you gain again i have much faith in you
29 Apr 14 by member: darknightangel
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My mom was always overly critical of me too. I never struggled as a child with being over weight - actually I was way under weight - fast metabolism (would like to know where that went!) Anyway - on my 30th birthday, at my party (as I was eating a giant piece of cake) she made a horrible comment. I looked up from my giant piece of cake (and although I knew she was right) I told her right then in there what I thought of her comments, her criticism and told her where she could stick her nasty thoughts. I haven't heard a thing about my weight since.....
29 Apr 14 by member: Momma2girls
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Parents can be the best, but also the absolute worst. Your dad sounds a lot like my parents. They mean well (I think) when they say these things. And I tell myself that they have my best interest in mind. Better to have parents that care (even if they don't express it in the best way) than parents who don't give a crap at all, right?
If you feel comfortable, talk to him about how it makes you feel.
And if that isn't your style, then just hopefully you can change how you react to it. Tell yourself whatever you need to so he doesn't get to you!
29 Apr 14 by member: missnewbody
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Aww I am sorry you have got so much stress on you. I agree with everyone, maybe you should try and just talk to your dad and tell him that what he says to you hurts and you would rather him support the things you are doing and not put more stress on you. If you tell him now before it turns into something a lot bigger, he may really listen. All my best to you, and keep up the great work you are doing.
29 Apr 14 by member: SherrieC
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Parents are human. I have been ashamed of myself the few times I have made observations that I later realized could have been hurtful. My parents are not tactful in the least. My dad made a comment about a picture I sent him last year of my husband and I. He said, "You guys are getting fat!" It was the truth, but it still hurt. Thankfully, my mother is a little more sympathetic now, knowing how much pain I am in all the time and how hard it is to exercise. Your life sounds like many single parents' lives. You may not have much "me" time until your son is older. Sorry it gets to you. It would get to me too. Good luck!
29 Apr 14 by member: gilliansings
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29 Apr 14 by member: FitOKay
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