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I started to cry today when I weighed in and haven't lost anything for the 3rd week in a row. I have spent the day researching and soul searching. Through research and some support from a few friend on fs, I have decided to raise my target RDI to 1500 from 1200. I grew up starving myself and no getting anywhere, maybe their is somethin to not eating enough. I have a very busy lifestyle and way works for my mother may not work for me. We are going shopping on Monday and I sure hope she doesn't make any fat comments. It is starting to tick me off. I can take a lot, but I am frustrated and kind of at the end of my rope. I thought about calling it quits today and as a result didn't eat very well. My husband was very supportive. All he did was give me a hug and tell me I am perfect whether I lose weight or not. I definitely made a good choice in husband. Now if only my choices were that good when it comes to food and dieting.
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Very sorry to hear this :( Don't give up! I agree you should raise your target RDI. We are about the same weight and mine is at 1700. Yesterday I went up to around 2300, and some days I hit 1500-1600. Remember what I was saying about measurements? Maybe you should make a chart like I did, so you can see progress in places the scale doesn't show you. And tell your mom to eat her hat! Thumper said it best "If you don't have anything nice to say...." And I'm glad your husband is so supportive. Don't beat yourself up. Just pick yourself up and dust yourself off. You know I had a bad day? Well I did better today. Lets do this!
04 Aug 13 by member: Jeld
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Kathy,
I agree with Jeld. Don't beat yourself up over this. Sometimes in the weight loss game, we hit plateaus. They are just that...a level place where your body is adjusting to the activity and energy your consuming. Everyone has these moments. The good news here is that you are *maintaining* not gaining and that's awesome! You are absolutely correct, what works for your mother or anyone else for that matter, may not work for you. You are an entirely different human being and you are a work of art! I agree, raise your RDI and set goals to achieve that RDI daily for a week or two, then lower it back down to 1200 for a week or two. It is disappointing when you get on the scale and see no movement, but what's worse is when you get on the scale and see movement in the wrong direction. You can do this! And you're doing great! I have a secret to tell you....The world is a better place, because you are in it and you are an original!
04 Aug 13 by member: TJSloan
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Kathy I haven'l lost a pound in a more then a month and I dont't eat very much that is because of stress I had work too much and had less sleep 3-4 hours a day and the thing is that if you are in stress your methabolism works different
You need to rest 8 hours sleep a day if you want to get rid of your kilos. Have nice day
Lepa.
04 Aug 13 by member: ververicka
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I'm so sorry you're feeling discouraged, Kathy. I wish I could give you a big hug. I think raising your RDI to 1500 is a good idea - 1200/day is very hard to maintain and I've also experienced better weight loss when I allow myself 1500 - 1600 calories per day. I've found that changing my meals and adding more water to my daily intake can help break a plateau. I also try to watch sodium and quit drinking ALL caffeine (I'm on day 3 with no caffeine now, as a matter of fact). I agree with ververicka that stress can really sabotage weight loss - it has to do with adrenal fatigue. This is exactly why I stop caffeine when I'm trying to lose (but adrenal fatigue can be caused by stress too). Please don't give up - everyone has discouraging days and we're all in this together.
04 Aug 13 by member: jackied510
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I actually get 8 - 10 hours of sleep every night. I don't feel stressed as I am a stress eater and would be binging if I was stressed. I did take measurements of my body. I have gone down 4" on my hips, 2" on my waist, 3" on my bust, 1-1/2" on my arms. I don't know about my thighs as I forgot to measure them. They haven't lost any in the two weeks since I added them to the list.
04 Aug 13 by member: Kathy Vanish
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Well there ya go sunshine!! :)) That's awesome! And you know they say muscle weighs more than fat for a reason and its not to dry your tears...its a physiological fact! That scale doesn't just weigh your fat..it weighs all the muscle, bone, and all your fluids, everything you ate or are digesting..its not the whole picture. I have heard that for some people it takes a drop in fat percentage to begin the drop in weight. We put too much of our success on those little numbers by our feet when its only part of the picture! Congrats on your loss you are doing great!
04 Aug 13 by member: Jeld
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So sorry you had a bad day. It was kind of the weekend for that it sounds like. I did bad too, but we can move past this. I think the change in your calories could be a good thing, I hope it helps the scale get moving. Good luck!!
05 Aug 13 by member: mars2kids
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Don't weigh yourself for a while it is good to know where you stand but if it hurts that much give it a few days. I have no idea where my scale is but if it helps drink a little more water with food and keep up the hard work. Measure your figure the girls are right muscle weighs more and you can tell when it balances out. But in the meantime please don't get discouraged. Tight hugs we will get there!
06 Aug 13 by member: The candy fan
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I loving reading some of these tips about breaking a plateau since I'm in a plateau too...
Kathy, we all agree how great you are, and how great you're doing and how much we would miss you if you quit this! Don't get discouraged and keepup the great work. The weight will come off eventually! (That's what I keep telling myself!)
Leposava, where have you been? I miss you!
06 Aug 13 by member: Re Becca
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Kathy, I too have a mother that always picks at me, and says things as if she doesnt think she needs a filter and has the right to. If I let it keep bothering me she wins, and thats the way I see it now. I think I have stayed this heavy all these years as a way of punishing her. I know that may sound strange, but its true. when I finally realized that I dont need her approval to be the woman I know I am, I have been able to lose this weight. You can do this. Your husband supports you. And loves you unconditionally. You should remember so do you. I dont treat my body like a garbage can anymore. I know its what is making the difference for me. I am wishing you luck today. I take my life one day at a time. If you promise yourself every morning that today you will have a good day, how many bad ones can you have? right?? Just promise yourself. Have a good day.
16 Aug 13 by member: paulacolette
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