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I slept well :)… DH did too!… and am feeling much better this morning. So, I'm gearing up for a cold paddle tennis clinic outside this morning. And, I'm hearing of another big snowstorm coming our way on Thursday. In addition to it meaning that DH could be snowbound at home Thurs & Fri, it could cause me to reschedule a much needed haircut & color Thurs afternoon! As I well know, there are much, much worse things in life than a missed cut & color! I'm also planning (I'm the planner who doesn't like last minute changes!) for being snowbound for a long weekend, but will take that one day & one weekend opportunity at a time should it happen.
I had a good appointment with my therapist & we spoke about the lunch with some of my more pretentious, materialistic friends, and my realizing that its in my best interest to pick & choose who I want to spend my time with. This had especially come to light to me when I was visiting my Mom in Cincinnati. There I socialize every day, but it doesn't get to me the way more than one social event in a weekend can here. So what I'm realizing is its not just the amount of the socializing but the who will be there/what we'll be doing/etc. Here, I feel so much more pressure to have the right outfit, the hair & nails done, and to be ready with good topics of conversation. There, its so much easier to just be me with no worries about what I'm wearing, saying etc. So, as I book our social calendar, I'll keep these new realizations in mind.
But before I get bundled up for my outdoor adventure, I again offer this prayer in memory of and for the family of our friend who passed away last weekend --
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
Through this one day, and each one meal, moment, bite, thought, and emotion, I'll pray, breathe, log, journal & express my way. I'm so very grateful for each of Heavenly you (yes, I think God sent you each my way & am ever so thankful!), my family & IRL friends, sunshine & little wind on this bitter cold day, and that I have the health & wealth to live this life I love! xoxox
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121.9 lb
Lost so far: 6.1 lb.
Still to go: 0 lb.
Diet followed reasonably well.
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Diet Calendar Entries for 11 February 2014:
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1205 kcal
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Fat: 47.93g | Prot: 95.98g | Carb: 117.49g.
Breakfast: Lactaid 100% Lactose Free Fat Free Milk, Harmless Harvest 100% Raw Coconut Water, Spectrum Naturals Organic Coconut Oil, Primal Nutrition Primal Fuel - Vanilla Coconut Creme. Lunch: Primal Nutrition Primal Fuel - Chocolate Coconut, Lactaid 100% Lactose Free Fat Free Milk. Dinner: Benihana Hibachi Vegetables, Berries, Trader Joe's grilled chicken strips, Stew Leonard's Healthy Vegetable Soup. Snacks/Other: Ralphs Whole Raw Almonds, Evolve Greek Kefir, Trader Joe's Fresh Vegetable Tray, Wholly Guacamole 100 Calorie Snack Pack. more...
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1957 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Sleeping - 8 hours, Resting - 14 hours and 30 minutes, Tennis - 1 hour and 30 minutes. more...
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losing 0.3 lb a week
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Hi, I see you are still 'on' so will keep this short. Good morning. Sound advice again, it's not just WHAT you do, it's who do you do it with. I could take that to heart too. Have an awesome day and keep warm :)
11 Feb 14 by member: sarahsmum
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Saw your post, Is, just before signing off… so we did get a sip or two together! Have a great day too, my awesome friend! xoxox
11 Feb 14 by member: Ruhu
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Glad you got a good rest last night Ruth, and yes I agree with your therapist, it can make a big difference in how you feel, who you choose to spend time with. Do they bring you down or make you feel good? I try to avoid the ones that bring me down :)Life is too short to waste your time on pretentious people, real people is where it is at for me.
11 Feb 14 by member: newmooney
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You just made me remember a good friend that I haven't seen in a while and I sent her a text. She is 1100 miles away. I can hang with her for days on end and not think of anything superficial and she really fills my soul. We have known each other since junior high. But I also have another good friend that I love dearly and she is about 1300 miles away and we met when I was 40 so 21 years ago and I always feel the need to be "on" my game with her but I love that she keeps me accountable for my appearance in an odd way. Both in FL. Very interesting topic and it gives me lots to think about so glad you brought it up. I wonder if the length of time you know someone makes a difference? I'm sorry you lost a friend. Good luck with paddle tennis...is that pickle ball or ping pong?
11 Feb 14 by member: Neptunebch
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Very revealing indeed - if your local friends aren't feeding your soul there's definitely no benefit in dining with them. No burning the bridge as people and times change just not breaking of bread, right? Your true friends are those around whom you can relax and focus on the friendship not on your nails and hair. Your journal also revealed to me a 'trait' that I carry - which is always being a little eccentric in my attire as to not try to be perfectly polished ... is it a defense or just a compromise? I know I cannot be perfect so as long as I'm wearing an interesting broach or watch pocket fob here or there ... it makes sense that my hair isn't salon perfect and my nails look like wild animals have chewed them. I'm rambling but you've tolerated me in the past.. I don't want to abandon this thought flow I'm on by moving to a different place (like, my own journal). If you're trying to project perfection to those 'friends' ... you're hiding from them, or something. You don't trust them to accept you - all of you - and that is that you're not perfect. OR... and bear with me .. this is just a suggestion.. have you been so critical of yourself (and you have been ... you poor thing... ) so much in the past you've projected that onto others and imagine they are projecting it back onto you?
Are you checking out their nails and hair because you have been so fastidious about yours? I am just playing my favorite role here - the advocate - so that you fully give the relationships in place a fair shake. As the quote is often given back to me 'you'd not worry about what people think of you if you knew how seldom they do'. I wonder if the 'traveling' is like a caveat reprieve -- look at me, I'm not perfect but I'm on the road, caring for my mother, not at my home salon, etc' and you Yourself give yourself a break ... where at home, surrounded by all of your steady tools, places, etc., you think 'I have all of this at my fingertips so they'd better be perfectly manicured'? Well, as you can tell, I've had too much coffee too early. Luckily for you I need to dress and get going on my day or I'd be getting a refill and rambling on more. Have a wonderful day, my Angel.
11 Feb 14 by member: FullaBella
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According to my nutritional therapist, relationship is one of the four main "food" groups (professional/spiritual/food/relationship). It's been useful for me to evaluate the relationships in my life and to give them the honor and "weight" they deserve. Nurturing relationships are helping me to fill the "void" I was trying to fill with food & TV. Not easy for a people-pleasing isolationist but, hey! I'm tryin!
11 Feb 14 by member: Sweet Ce
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Thank you for sharing the Serenity Prayer and the others, as well. I'm so glad that you are choosing more judiciously your time spent with people who deserve you rather than who who you feel you need to impress with the right nail polish. Good for you! You're my hero today.
11 Feb 14 by member: mrsmole
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