Annabelle3117's Journal, 06 March 2015

But without having used your mom's help, could you get around in your car? I know it's terribly hard to deal with it all, but if you both do what you can to help each other, hopefully the frayed nerves will settle down and you can both appreciate each other's help. 

I can feel your frustration! Hope things get worked out ASAP. BTW - thank you very much for your comment in my last journal.  

(((((((Yolanda)))))))))))  

Good for you at finding a bathing suit. And don't beat yourself up over one missed question! You are doing fantastic! 

100% valid thoughts. I could be totally wrong because I'm not there, but it seems like you are a person that your family and coworkers consistently feel like they can rely on. They might be thinking "Oh it's fine that I can't do [whatever], Yolanda will." Not only does that put a huge amount of pressure on you, but when you start asserting that you have your own life and responsibilities to take care of, they get mad that their go-to fallback plan (you) isn't there to save the day anymore. So they take it out on you. So, when you say you feel like you're being taken advantage of... yes, absolutely! When you start putting your foot down and saying no is when you really see who your true friends are. Again, I could be totally wrong, but I'm sorry this is all falling on your shoulders. I would say, reach out to any close friends you trust, your hubby, etc, and just ask, "Hey, my plate is so full, I would so appreciate it if you would do me a huge favor and pick up my kids today, I will make it up to you." This is what community is for - helping out when the everyday tasks get to be too much. I hope everything gets worked out soon, sending you all my support <3 

Totally agree PepperMill. 

Nope. You need to call the company to complain. It's a HUGE liability for them to have a staff member asking a non-staff member for help. Either to cover shifts or to help out when you're there in a non-working capacity. Tell the company that you need a new staff member that can be reliable and present and that you are not to be viewed as an employee when you are not being compensated for your effort. Offer to show them text messages. As an employer, I assure you, if this was going on, I'd want to know about it and some staffing changes would be made. If that person can't work that many hours, she needs to be put with someone that has less intensive needs and fewer hours. Anyway, rant over. Just stand up for yourself. And I get wanting to help out your mom but when your mom/insurance/state funds/etc. are paying for that help and not to you, the burden shouldn't fall on you either.