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Once again, this next chapter (see below) from the retreat on my mindful eating & living could not have come at a better time as it talks about taking care of ourselves & our relationships with others. I'm feeling really great about my journey, even with its bumps & twists along the way… progress, not perfection. I'm off to outdoor paddle tennis this morning (thankfully on a warmer, dry day) and have errands/book work this afternoon. But first, I'll start my day in prayer --
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
And for this one day, and through this one meal, moment, bite, thought & emotion, I'll pray, breathe, log, journal & express my way. I'm so very grateful for each of you... the Quintessential example of a true and loyal friend, my family & IRL friends, warmer temps & getting to enjoy the outdoors, and having the health & wealth to live this life I love! xoxox
EWYL-BE Chapter 9 – Self-Care Buffer Zone
Where Do I Invest My Energy?
Investing your energy to build a strong self-care buffer zone will make you less vulnerable & more resilient to the triggers and stressors you face each day. Mindfulness helps you pay attention to your self-care needs so you can make choices that bolster your resistance to ineffective thoughts, and overwhelming emotions.
Your self-care voice is the compassionate, wise voice that understands what you’ve been through, yet keeps your best intentions in mind. One way to learn to listen to your self-care voice is to think of it as a kind, loving parent.
Mindful living promotes healthy relationships. Healthy relationships decrease emotional distress & increase your opportunities to meet your needs. Bringing intention & attention to your relationships provides rewards for everyone involved. Mindful relationships develop through actively listening, validating, assertively communicating and resolving conflict.
Active listening draws out others & invites them to communicate their thoughts, feelings & needs. It allows you to learn how they think & feel, and hear what they need. It’s being intentional about improving the relationship by trying to understand their viewpoint & needs.
Validation conveys understanding & acceptance in any relationship – including your relationship with yourself. Validation intentionally communicates that the other’s or your own thoughts, feelings & behaviors are understandable given their or your experience.
Assertiveness is communicating how you feel about a particular situation without blaming or judging & then stating what you want, need, or prefer. The key to assertive communication is taking responsibility for your own feelings & communicating your needs clearly, without being passive, aggressive or both.
Conflict is inherent in any relationship because people don’t always think or feel the same way about any given situation. Validating the other person and using assertive communication to express and listen to one another’s viewpoints & needs diffuses anger and prevents hurt feelings & misunderstandings. This will allow you to focus on finding a balance between your two seemingly opposite positions to formulate a solution that satisfies everyone involved.
An important part of recovery is replacing your relationship with food with relationships with other people. Food will then take its proper place – nourishing & fueling your body.
Diet Calendar Entries for 20 February 2014:
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1248 kcal
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Fat: 40.92g | Prot: 108.82g | Carb: 134.52g.
Breakfast: Primal Nutrition Primal Fuel - Vanilla Coconut Creme, Spectrum Naturals Organic Coconut Oil, Harmless Harvest 100% Raw Coconut Water, Lactaid 100% Lactose Free Fat Free Milk. Lunch: Primal Nutrition Primal Fuel - Chocolate Coconut, Lactaid 100% Lactose Free Fat Free Milk. Dinner: Cantaloupe Melons, Lactaid 100% Lactose Free Lowfat Small Curd Cottage Cheese, Roasted Brussel Sprouts. Snacks/Other: Trader Joe's Fresh Vegetable Tray, Evolve Greek Kefir, Ralphs Whole Raw Almonds, Whole Foods Market Avocado Vinaigrette Dressing. more...
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1963 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Tennis - 1 hour and 30 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours, Resting - 14 hours and 30 minutes. more...
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