Ruhu's Journal, 25 September 2013

Morning friends! Have to vent a minute as I just finished a loud phone conversation with DH, not quite a screaming match, but louder than our usual phone voices. Why didn't he just email me... it works so much better for us?!? The topic was oldest son who nows lives with us & goes to college locally. I think he's doing well, abiding by the house rules & he talks the good talk about how his classes are going... of course he always did & then the grades would come in quite differently. He has a new girlfriend that he's been spending quite a bit of time with & DH yells at me about it, "to mark his words that the grades won't be good", that he never sees him studying, etc., etc., etc. Anyway, I pointed out that i'm reminding DS about his responsibilities, do see him studying, think the girlfriend has a good, calming effect (she's pre med & they supposedly study together), etc. and that there's only so much I can do. DS is taking out loans to pay for school & does have a part-time job, but of course we're supplementing at times. And, of course, I pointed out to DH that he needs to talk to DS, NOT ME, about his concerns! While the conversation ended fine, I know journaling it will get the lingering bits off my mind. Sorry you all had to hear the rant!

I'm off to workout this morning, then errands, book work & golf camp this afternoon -- not a bad day, especially with the beautiful weather we've been having in the northeast. And, I'm feeling good staying my course gluten, lactose & sugar aware while playing with IF (Intermittent Fasting). I did a 24 hour fast on Mon (I hadn't planned it to go that long but with the long day with BIL, it just happened), ate regularly yesterday & plan to wait to eat today til midday & keep to a 6 hour eating window today. Guess constructing my healthy road now includes buildings too... with windows!?! We'll see how this goes. My understanding of IF is that you can do it several ways -- 2 longer fasting periods/days per week, 6-8 hour eating windows, 2 meals/day, etc. I'm still reading about it & sorting it out, but like the idea of mixing up my WOE, hoping it will keep my body guessing & hopefully not storing more calories than needed.

BIL is going through detox which should take 7-10 days. We won't be able to have any contact other than phone calls from BIL to his wife when he's with his counselor. I'm praying this works & he gets the help he needs. Since he runs the business I do the bookkeeping for, I'm on call & my hours have/will increase. He's been trying to sell the business & has a deal thats close to be finalizing... I'm praying for that too. And, as always, I'm praying for serenity --

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

So, for this one day and each one meal, moment, bite & emotion, I'll pray, breathe, log, post & express my way, journaling again if needed. I'm so very grateful for each of you & your never-ending support, my family (with all their shortcomings) & IRL friends, that BIL is getting the help he needs, the beautiful weather, and having the health & wealth to live this life I love. xoxoxo

Diet Calendar Entries for 25 September 2013:
992 kcal Fat: 43.57g | Prot: 51.03g | Carb: 108.35g.   Lunch: Asian Pears, Panera Bread Power Mediterranean Roasted Turkey Salad. Dinner: Figs, Boston Market Seasonal Fresh Fruit Salad, Trader Joe's grilled chicken strips, Stew Leonard's Healthy Vegetable Soup. Snacks/Other: Rienzi Artichoke Hearts, Green Olives, Black Olives, Trader Joe's Raw Almonds, Harmless Harvest 100% Raw Coconut Water. more...
1564 kcal Activities & Exercise: Golf (cart) - 1 hour and 30 minutes, Resting - 13 hours and 30 minutes, Pilates - 1 hour, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...

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Morning dear...it does a body good to vent...and you are soo right..that the house rules need to be taken seriously..but you DS is over 18 and has to learn about life on his own...we all had too...you DH is has to let it go..its hard to see your child or in my case nieces and nephews make the wrong decision...but that's how they learn..Hope the rest of your day is peachy...Hugs...:O) 
25 Sep 13 by member: BHA
Yep, you gotta get it out or it ends up making you eat sugar :) And yes DH has to speak to DS himself, that is for sure. DS is an adult and has to be responsible for his choices but it doesn't hurt is his parental units chip in from time to time, especially the male role model. Sounds like the IF experiment is going well. And mixing it up is good, I think, though it doesn't always work for me because I expect 'instant' results. The wash, rinse, repeat cycle is what works but it is so SLOW - but that's okay, I'll never be off this site anyway no matter what I end up weighing :) Have an awesome day bestie :) 
25 Sep 13 by member: sarahsmum
I went through the same thing between father and son, on a sad note, my son moved out and won't come back cause DH nit picks on him :( 
25 Sep 13 by member: Wyattj99
Yikes! Sometimes when DH is ranting at me about the kids I'll have to sit on my lips and just let him rant, not take it personally - and that's hard to do. I just have to keep reminding myself he doesn't have a journal so he needs to vent too. I'd imagine your DH is venting his own frustration; he too has to accept his role in the DS life and then back off. Maybe he needs to learn the serenity prayer too and accept that which he cannot change? It's funny, everytime I read about IF I say 'I should do that' and then recently I realized how subconsciously I was - and I am wondering if .. even though I did see a drop in weight at first - if it wasn't what lead to my plateau? Our bodies, like our kids, seem to have a mind of their own... don't they? 
25 Sep 13 by member: FullaBella
Rant away... FS is a great place to air your frustrations. I know I always feel better if I write it down on my journal :-) 
25 Sep 13 by member: Sk1nnyfuture

     
 

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