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I'm so frustrated with my family right now. My husband, kids, and I will be camping with my parents and my brother, his wife, and 2 kids this weekend. Everyone knows that I am on Atkins, and although they all want me to lose weight, only my husband seems truly supportive. My mom comes to me and holds out a bunch of gram crackers and asks if I think she should get new ones for the s'mores. I tell her "I think they are fine, and by the way, that's going to be really hard on me... everyone sitting around eating s'mores." She tells me that it's tradition and I can't expect people not to eat s'mores. My sister-in-law makes the most amazing cakes and she always bakes one and brings it for camp trips. I told my mother I would rather she didn't do that this year. My mother of course told me that "it's tradition."
My mother is a recovering alcoholic of 10 years, so I thought I would put it in perspective for her. I am not addicted to alcohol or drugs, but I am addicted to carbs. This is what I need to be doing to be a healthy person and I need support. When she was freshly sober I never would have had alcohol around her. Her reply? "I don't want you to think we aren't supportive, because we are. But you can't ask people not to eat traditional camp food. You can just go in your camper while we are around the fire eating s'mores."
Does this sound supportive to you?? She says that they can eat their macaroni salad and such in the camper, but none of that bothers me. They can eat all the hot dog rolls they want. I'm just asking for no cake and no s'mores.
Makes me want to call off the whole thing. Am I crazy?
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Have you thought about taking some legal alternatives to snack on while everyone else is enjoying smores and cake? You could bake up some mini-cheesecakes and take those along, keep some whipped cream in the cooler, and while everyone else is eating carby things you could have decadent cheesecake and whipped cream.
I've eaten around many people who have shoved their carby foods in my face and lorded their own stuff over what I was eating (this was bad when I was doing low-carb and living in the dorms, especially), but in a sense you have to internalize the message that you are WORTH IT. You're worth not eating a s'more, even though everyone around you has one. You're worth eating right, even if everyone else chooses not to do so.
I think you can beat this if you have an alternate treat, without depriving your family-members of traditions they insist on upholding. Think about it like this: would you want someone saying you can't have a steak or some cheese because they're on a low-fat diet and can't resist the temptation?
Best of luck with the camping, though. You can do it!
12 Sep 07 by member: CheeseHippy
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Thanks. That's a good suggestion and I will try to do that. I just really resented my mother telling me I should stay in my camper while everyone else was eating treats. I feel like the camp trip is supposed to be about enjoying family (I only see my brother's family twice a year) and not about stuffing our faces.
12 Sep 07 by member: bnemom
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It's going to be ok, but you can't change all the rules because you've decided to go on a diet. Let them eat whatever they want. You are trying to fix you and to be honest, you and only you can control what you put in your mouth. I am face with this all the time, just take your own food and defend your body. You can do this! Please don't be miserable and don't pull out of the trip, show yourself and your family just how discipline you have become with what you fuel your body with. It's not going to be easy but it will be worth it!
12 Sep 07 by member: Mandie160
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Maybe it is time for a "new tradition"..i love the legal snack food idea and I have a great recipe for low carb chocolate cheesecake. Just remember the pleasure of eating those "high carb" foods is very short lived, but the satisfaction of losing the weight you want will last a lot longer!!! Good Luck!
12 Sep 07 by member: jayhawkgirl
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I know what you mean. All of our family gatherings end up being very food-centric. No wonder we've all struggled with our weight for years! I just started making sure I bring along low-carb dishes whenever I go so I can eat, drink and be merry alongside the others. :)
12 Sep 07 by member: CheeseHippy
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I am not on Akins but the Matol diet is very simular I am told. We went camping for labour day and were faced with the same problems on the first night around the campfire. So the second night, I fixed up a veggie tray and made some turnip fires and we were the hit. Even the kiddies wanted our treats. You can do it, you just need to be one step ahead of the rest.
13 Sep 07 by member: rememberme
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