ziannelyn's Journal, 27 August 2017

I am sorry for your loss and nothing anybody can say or do will make you feel better, but as time goes on you will cope a little better. you Mother would not want you to be sad. try to stay positive lots of people on here will give you support. 

I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in a tough spot right now. Please take good care of yourself. It's hard to know what to say but I'm glad you are here and that you are not neglecting yourself. ❤️️ 

You have my condolences. Nothing but time can make you feel better, but try not to let it discourage you. Taking care of yourself would be a good way to honor your mother, and I'm willing to bet she would want you to be healthy. 

So, Sorry, I know your mother would want you to carry on, as a tribute to my late wife, I started my weight loss journey, and I know she would have been proud of me, before she died I promised her I would get healthy and loose weight. And your journey goes on !!!  

I am terribly sorry to hear this. I too have lost someone dear to me, my beautiful baby boy. Though I know it's not the same the grief is. I felt the same way. Things will seem that way for a while. Took me almost 6 months not to continuously cry all the time. It will get better but first we must go through the stages. I hope I've helped a little sharing with you. I hope that you start to feel even a slightest bit better. 

I'm sorry for your loss, loosing a parent not easy. It's going to get easier with time.  

My heart goes out to you and the pain you're going through.  

Sorry for your loss. A month is a short period of time when you're dealing with overwhelming grief. Just take your time and deal with it in your own way. Again sorry for your loss.  

it's been 7 years this week since my mom and 52 year old brother passed. some days are better, some are worse. hang in there. prayers for a peaceful heart. you know she would want you to live your best life.  

Omygoodness. I am so very sorry. Your mom is still with you, in your memories and in your heart and she will come to you in your dreams. Journal your memories. So many will come to you. My thoughts are with you. 

I do not have the words for your loss right now... but, I admire your spirit in seeking not to leave your children an unhealthy legacy. 

My mother died suddenly at age 34, in 1968, so I've been where you are, Ziannelyn. It's never easy. Be gentle with yourself in your acute grief. We are never more aware of our weakness than in the loss of a loving parent. Take comfort in the presence of your children. Hug them a little longer and tell them how much you love them, and let them see your sadness. From your vulnerability, your children can learn to be compassionate, a precious quality that will always serve them and others. Your mother has not forgotten you. Talk to her in your quiet, lonely moments. The love she has for you lives on! 

I am so sorry. I totally understand. My mom passed a year ago and she was my world. Prayer going out to you. 

Wishing you comfort for your grief and ever increasing moments of peace. 

My condolences. So very sorry! 

I am so sorry for your loss. As well as for the well-intended but unhelpful things you'll inevitably hear. I can't promise that it gets easier, but you'll get better at it. If you can, let people support you, when it's real support. Often "let me know if you need anything" doesn't come with specific offers; it's ok to have some practical requests handy. Whether that's meals you can eat or including you on outings to scenic places (you'll still be miserable but fresh air is good) or vacuuming your living room or helping tend her grave. Those who just meant the offer as moral support, or trying to make themselves feel better, won't follow through but won't resent you for being specific.  

It will get better. Remember the good times. Make notes and videos. Put info with pictures for the future, not only for yourself but anyone else that may look at them. It's always hard, but you will make it through. My dad passed away five months ago and it still makes me sad that he's not here anymore. But I know he's not in pain anymore and he would want me to thrive while I am still here. 

Ziannelyn, I'm also truly sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom in 2010 and still miss & think of her daily, but so glad she's not suffering and in pain from Pancreatic Cancer. So, please know that she would want you to go on, but I also realize those are just words because I have become some what of a recluse myself. I still miss seeing & visiting with her daily. It really takes time, so I have been told. Sometimes doing things fir others can bring some joy to your heart too. Will be praying for you!