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Here I am back at my goal weight. Cheers~
I should be proud and delighted.
I should be.
Instead, I spent the night with a very important loved one telling me my obsession with fitness was unhealthy. I spent the night fending off accusations of being manic and judgmental about wellness despite my fitness being a goal because I want a long life with said loved one and my son. Despite assurances that I have reached my goal weight and will adjust to a maintenance routine, I was lambasted as neglecting more important things and being self-absorbed.
It is a universal truth widely known that when someone makes positive changes in her life, those around her must adjust. Yes, this can make them uncomfortable or require self-reflection they didn't ask for. Yet, I'm not imposing my perspectives, choices, or positive habits on anyone. I indulge in normal activities, foods, and choices because that's what life is about, and I believe in balance. I've done the therapy. I know the warning signs to watch out for in unhealthy choices.
This is not that.
This moment is full of the sadness and sense of futility that once paralyzed me. It wears me down to keep going through various life challenges over which I have no control. We live in hard times, and others have it so much harder than me.So, Much. Harder. Digging for the strength to keep moving forward in wellness. Summoning my mother's love and wisdom to propel me on because he right can carry me. My light can carry me if I stand tall.
Does anyone else feel like the energy it takes to stand tall is more than one has left inside> Despite all of the love one has for family, friends, and the world? When she's doing everything right and still getting teeth kicked in metaphorically? I can take it, but jeez. Im kind of exhausted.
Ramble. Whine. Ramble some more. Whine some more.
You all inspire me and remind me of what it's about. I'll stay focused on that. I'll be my best me. Would like a pass from having to be a gladiator just for a day. Anyone seen one fo those passes laying around? If so, please tell me where to find one.
Cheers to goal weight. Cheers to wellness. Don't give up the good fight out there.
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133.0 lb
Lost so far: 23.0 lb.
Still to go: 2.0 lb.
Diet followed reasonably well.
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Diet Calendar Entries for 16 September 2021:
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1130 kcal
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Fat: 27.44g | Prot: 73.80g | Carb: 163.98g.
Breakfast: Carrots, Bananas, Peach, Chobani Nonfat Vanilla Greek Yogurt, Blueberries, Flaxseed Seeds, Orange Juice, Nature's Bounty Fiber Gummies, Coffee with Milk and Sugar. Lunch: Kroger Deli Thin Sliced Roast Beef, Hummus, Naturally Good Kosher Provolone Cheese, Lettuce, Arnold Bakery Light 100% Whole Wheat Bread. Dinner: Whole Foods Market Roasted Tomato Basil Soup. Snacks/Other: Clif Bar Builder's Bar - Chocolate Mint. more...
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1940 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Weight Training (moderate) - 30 minutes, Walking (brisk) - 4/mph - 1 hour and 14 minutes, Resting - 14 hours and 16 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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losing 7.0 lb a week
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your not alone. That's everything my husband has said to me, what you said in the first paragraph. I told him I want to be healthy and live healthy. I just keep doing what I do like exercise and count calories
16 Sep 21 by member: RN16
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16 Sep 21 by member: jollyfox
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Honestly it’s your body, you’re doing this for you and to better yourself. Making yourself healthier is not a problem. Overall it’s a good thing but I’ve heard plenty of people say things like that. As long as you’re not bringing yourself to an unhealthy weight or hurting yourself in the process, then they should be supportive. Congratulations on reaching your goal!!!
16 Sep 21 by member: aryssake
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16 Sep 21 by member: jimmiepop
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Congratulations on reaching your goal weight. That’s quite an accomplishment!
I feel for you. My SO doesn’t like me being fat, but he likes it even less when I am 20-30 pounds away from my goal weight, let alone close to my goal weight. Upshot, he gets jealous. I am working on that not being my problem. I need to be healthy.
16 Sep 21 by member: Leafdragons
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Thanks everyone. I've told him his discomfort with my wellness is his issue and not mine. I also told him I should have someone celebrating my wellness. I am in control of neither. I am only in control of me. I will celebrate for me. I will shrug off the malaise of his own issues and deal with me. You all are the best. I am now on a maintain path. Happy Day!
16 Sep 21 by member: jenniferdonahue
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Jennifer I hear you. I have dealt with this for many years. I have watched my friends with diabesity (obese and diabetic 2) die one after another and watched them gain weight and ignore it for years. The harder you try to help the worse it becomes. Now I just have to let them eat themself to death and enjoy their company while they are still here.
16 Sep 21 by member: Kenna Morton
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Congratulations on reaching your goal weight. He will get used to it. Some of my family members feel criticized when I say 'no thank you' to what they're eating. I make an effort to be neutral about all the junk they're guzzling. It's a tough dynamic. All we can do is be our healthiest selves. Some day they may realize that it's something they could be doing for themselves as well. As I'm getting thinner, they're getting fatter. They don't like that. It's a bit edgy!
16 Sep 21 by member: erikahollister
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Opps— some people don’t get that living a bit healthier is not always easy because others are just focused on food, FOOD.
16 Sep 21 by member: Kenna Morton
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There will always be people who do not understand or support you for a variety of reasons. Congratulations!! You should be very proud of yourself!!
16 Sep 21 by member: Funshine59
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Congratulations on your taking your life back 💪🎉
16 Sep 21 by member: Hockeyfan40
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Navigating thru the world of healthier eating can be tricky. Occasionally, Hubby will say I'm being a bit obsessive when I pull out the food scales to weigh something I'm going to eat. But, overall he's supportive and has reaped the benefits of healthier meals by losing weight himself. He appreciates that. When I'm eating amongst other friends & family I pick & choose what I want to eat...and sometimes I eat foods I don't eat everyday at home. I am lucky my friends have been complementary. And many members of my family have also chosen to try to make healthier choices, too. We enjoy the treats but balance them with "good" foods, too.
16 Sep 21 by member: SherryeB
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Well, just remember to keep the main things, the main things. ❤
16 Sep 21 by member: V739NV
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This is your journey!! So big congrats on making goal!! And do whatever you need to do to stay there!! Every soul on earth has an opinion, doesn’t mean it’s right for you!! You already worked out what works for you!! Continued success for your future!!👏👏👍🎉
16 Sep 21 by member: bgr12
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Congrats on getting back to your goal. It can be rough when love ones are not supportive. Don't let them slow you down. Your health is your reward!!!
16 Sep 21 by member: John10251
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fact is, no one likes to see anyone succeed. it takes a very self confident person to enjoy someone else's success. it's unfortunate that people can be that way but you need to do for yourself and you being healthy makes you a better person even for those who don't want to admit you did something amazing! be proud and congratulations to you 👏
16 Sep 21 by member: ashleyo_65
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So sorry this has happened to you. Not that this excuses their horrible behavior but I suspect that your svelt figure makes them insecure. Whatever it is, it’s definitely their issue, not yours. You sound like you’ve got this, but wanted to throw my support into the mix. Good luck.
16 Sep 21 by member: dprindallas
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I echo what others have said. Some have a hard time accepting others success and happiness. You won't find that here on FS. We hold each other up. Proud of you. ❤❤❤
16 Sep 21 by member: JC_suburbangothcatmom
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Congratulations on your success! Although it is hard to do, don't let anyone pop your balloons. Keep soaring. You have earned your successes. The fault is not yours if others fail to give you your due. There will always be someone who isn't supportive. Ignore them. Have fun and enjoy what you have accomplished!
16 Sep 21 by member: kattay
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I'm celebrating your success! The same people who used to heckle me at my highest weight now sneer and roll their eyes while telling me I look ill. These are my three closest family members. (Mother, sister, brother) i have a very dysfunctional bitter family. They are supposed to love and support me. I've come to the conclusion that it's their problem, not mine. All it does is make me want to keep on improving myself. It makes me stronger. I wish I had learned this lesson years ago, it would have saved me a lit of grief. All the barriers they try to throw my way, it is a waste of their timekeeper on striving for the best! You are worth it!
16 Sep 21 by member: BeauxS
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