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The dieting and exercising isn't going as planned since I got sick right before Thanksgiving. Then that same day I was walking the dogs and my ankle turned over! Not quite a sprain, but at least a strain, which hurts at the end of the day. I hope it heals quickly. I'm going to my dance class tonight, so we'll see how that goes, I'll definitely be wearing my brace.
Wedding plans aren't going that well either. My mom wants me to wait until next fall, and we just don't want to. Which I guess is a bit silly, there's no reason not to wait. Now, though, Greg and I are thinking about eloping and doing a nice trip somewhere. It's partly because I don't really care about planning a wedding (even though my mom says I could have fun with it if I took my time), and the money is also an issue. My parents don't have the money, and even with waiting a year I don't think they'd have it either. And while Greg and I do have it, and would be fine paying for it, I know my parents would feel like they needed to pay for the wedding. Greg and I have been doing Dave Ramsey's plan to gt out of debt and plan for our future and we really hate to see the thousands of dollars for a wedding spent on 1 day, when we would rather put that money towards our debt, then our emergency fund.
We talked with his parents to see how they felt about our eloping and they were ok with it. His mom said she would of course love to be there to see us married, but ultimately it was whatever we wanted and she just wants us to be married! Then last night I talked w/ my mom and I think she was a little disappointed about it. So I'm unsure what I want to do at this point.
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When my husband and I got engaged, my parents offered to pay for our wedding or give us the money for what the wedding would cost. We thought it over and chose a small wedding (less than 100 people invited to the reception) and my husband and I payed for some of the costs (the flowers, the limo and the photographer). My parents payed for my dress (I went low end but it was still $850 23 years ago!) and, if memory serves, I think my parents payed for the reception and hubby's parents payed for the liquor. That being said, it added up to be about $5000-$6000 at the end of the day. We got very close to that amount in monetary gifts (it was the tradition where we lived to give money at the wedding and presents at the bridal shower) and in profits from our wedding social (a prairie tradition where the wedding party puts on a dance at a hall some months before the wedding and all profits from tickets, raffles and liquor go to the bride and groom) so it all evened out pretty well and we still had the day for our memories. But, it is a lot of stress making the plans and hoping it all turns out the way you want. And the bigger you go, the bigger the headaches. So weigh the pros and cons and try not to let time be a factor - you've waited this long and you've got the rest of your lives so there's really no reason to rush unless that's what you both truly want. And there's a lot to be said for a small, private ceremony with immediate family followed by a dinner at your home or a restaurant to mark the occasion. Simple and uncomplicated. Go with your heart and do what makes you and Greg happy - it's your wedding.
04 Dec 12 by member: evelyn64
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I had a slight panic attack about wedding finances last night. It's looking like ours is going to be around $15,000.... eek!!!! It's like an avalanche.. it gets started and then there's just no stopping it! There's just so many little expenses that add up in addition to the big obvious expenses. We will have around 200 people there - I guess I've always just envisioned having the big wedding and reception and everything.. but it would be really nice to have a small private ceremony like Evelyn said or just elope so you don't have to go through the stress/headache, plus then you don't have to invite all of the random people that are "family friends" that you don't even care about being there. Can't your parents all be there if you elope anyway?
07 Dec 12 by member: erika2633
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As far as the waiting goes, I totally get you on that one.. I was like "There's no way in heck I'm waiting any longer than totally necessary" because I was thinking we should have kids soon since we're no spring chickens.. ;) As it turns out, I'll be taking some of my students to Spain in June 2014, so we have to make sure to kind of plan around that anyway! :) Anyway, I'll quit with the wedding talk - but know you can also message me about stuff too if you are getting stressed! Hope your ankle is feeling better!
07 Dec 12 by member: erika2633
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