Good Grief Girl!! He needs to take a chill pill. There is a reason I am divorced and loving it. So, I really shouldn't say anything but I do support you!!
29 Jun 14 by member: kattay
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thanks kattay; i'm trying to see if I can tolerate him and not be so sensitive, and have absolutely no expectations, but he is just a bully! the list about him is endless . . . . don't even get me started .. . . .
I seriously don't know what to do about the gym; my trial is ending and if I can't do the classes, there's no point in paying the membership . . .
29 Jun 14 by member: Tulipgirl6
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Give this a lot of thought , a lot. Read your journal over Then reread it again and think about it. I'm sure he is going through some hard times because he is not working. But............... That's. All I'm going to say.
29 Jun 14 by member: Char60
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Yea, our problems preceded his job situation; I wish it was only that . . . . this is just exacerbating it . . . . actually everything under the sun sets him off; he is goofy but just does not have a joy for life or anything, and he kills everyone else's joy also . . . .
29 Jun 14 by member: Tulipgirl6
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29 Jun 14 by member: alvarez15
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Why are you still with him? Have you thought about getting a divorce? It's none of my business, but from your journal entries it seems like you don't even like him, so I'm wondering why you're with him. He sounds like a horrible person to live with. You can do better :)
29 Jun 14 by member: ChristyLA
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So sorry! It's amazing how when the stars line up (e.g. camp and gym schedules meshing well), life seems good. Unfortunately, the Universe doesn't always cooperate, does it!
29 Jun 14 by member: gilliansings
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Oh so sorry...I can both sympathize and relate. My kids' dad (my 1st ex)was the same way. Still is, he has little "use" or interest in his grandkids, little relationship with 3amazing daughters. I feel bad for him as he has no joy in his family. I have so much fun with all of them.
29 Jun 14 by member: wholefoodnut
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I'll. bet a he is not happy with you loosing the weight . he just might see this as a threat. What do you think?
You know, we all love you . I hope everything turns out the way you want it to.
29 Jun 14 by member: Char60
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Not a good thing not having support from your spouse. Hope it gets better.
29 Jun 14 by member: madanjen
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Was he like this before bring jobless?
29 Jun 14 by member: Kris AZ
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Have you tried couples' therapy? I read that that could be beneficial
29 Jun 14 by member: Yourebffjill
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I suggest you make a list of his redeeming qualities, I am sure he must have some or you wouldn't still be with him! IMO... children are a gift, a joy, and yes....sometimes a pna (pain in the ___), but they are yours. And don't get me started on how wonderful I think grandkids are!! However, both parents need to be a part of their lives and participate. Child care should never be just one parent's responsibility. Been there. It is not fair to the children. And it certainly is not fair to the parent that doesn't get a break. Makes no difference, male or female. Life is to enjoy!! Share the joy and PNAs!
29 Jun 14 by member: kattay
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thanks you guys; my buddies here you are my lifeline; i am going though a really tough time right now; i never thought of myself as an emotional eater, but sure enough, I had 2 choc chunk cookies leftover from my kids' party and a bunch of party mix . . . . enough said
29 Jun 14 by member: Tulipgirl6
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Tis ok tulip don't beat yourself up, your dh is doing enough of that emotionally. Sorry have been through two marriages one was physically and emotionally abusive the other emotionally abusive. I tend to go there. I've been controlled by men most of my life since my dad was very controlling as well though not abusive. I'm in my own good space now but still dealing daily with shaking off flashbacks even though it has been 8 years nice I left my 2nd dh.
29 Jun 14 by member: wholefoodnut
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Dang spell check changed since to nice for some unknown reason.
29 Jun 14 by member: wholefoodnut
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Take good care, Tulipgirl. You deserve a break and support. If he doesn't realize or provide it, I hope you find peace somehow. I can't tell you how to deal with a marriage, but you seem terribly unhappy with this man. You deserve so much more. Much love & support
29 Jun 14 by member: Sweet Ce
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Can you find a gym that offers childcare while you work out? Maybe you can talk the husband into also going with you. It may work wonders for his mood.
29 Jun 14 by member: 2ManyCurves
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29 Jun 14 by member: kexiao
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I hope things get better soon! Bless you....
29 Jun 14 by member: PinkRose88
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