I am thinking of you, and i know a whole lot of others are too! Again, put your and your daughter's health first.
17 Aug 18 by member: jengetfit123
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17 Aug 18 by member: adefwebserver
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I am so pulling for you to come to whatever decision works to keep you and your daughter happy and safe! Just do not excuse his behavior - it was absolutely wrong no matter what reason he gave. There is no situation where it is acceptable and that includes it being done in private. Wishing you all the best - you deserve it!
17 Aug 18 by member: nikeit
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Keep working towards the best possible results for you and your daughter.
17 Aug 18 by member: Fishingwidow
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So sorry. Sometimes you just have to do what is best for you...
17 Aug 18 by member: clay pot baker
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you are stronger than you know and you deserve to be treated with respect. take care of you and your precious daughter.
17 Aug 18 by member: sallkr3
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17 Aug 18 by member: KayBuckaroo
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you are communicating. I was kind of hating him yesterday, but it sounds like he is in pain for making your lives worse while you are going in the opposite direction. however, if after thinking he still can't see your point of view, at least you will have tried. good luck!!
17 Aug 18 by member: cynthiaaeh
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It's good that you talked! It's not ok that he refuses to change anything or even try. Stick to your guns. I believe all relationships go through tough times, but it's worth fighting for. That only works, however, if both people participate. Good luck.
17 Aug 18 by member: reganshale
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Do your best but remember that you will be there, again and again, feeling lonely, humiliated. I thought too, it was the best for my daughter, but now she is 25, encourages me and help me to divorce. All she says, is " Why we didn't left 10 years ago?" I am almost 63. Hope and make plans for a free better life. Get some help. Friends, family, relatives, counselors. Think why you loved him, why you married him, remind to him your better days, then, just leave.
17 Aug 18 by member: mandykane1b
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well if he doesn't want anything to change then he will have to figure out how to work things out so your lives are better. tight money always causes problems. even in good relationships. It is hard. I hope money gets straightened out so things will ease.
17 Aug 18 by member: baskington
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My heart breaks for the both of you, and for this situation. Ask him to go with you for mediation and conflict resolution.
17 Aug 18 by member: adamevegod1
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My heart breaks for the both of you, and for this situation. Ask him to go with you for mediation and conflict resolution. Praying.
17 Aug 18 by member: adamevegod1
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There may be a less drastic solution. Let him do the budgeting. While my husband was in nursing school, I budgeted, took all the uncomfortable overdue calls, skipped some payments to make others, etc. When he wanted to buy another car and I said we couldn't afford it, he took over the budgeting, and miracle of miracles, still managed to get the new car, and deal with bills, and I was freed from stress headaches! We worked the financial knot out slowly. It can be done, with patience and sharing the burden.
17 Aug 18 by member: Texasgranny6
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Glad you talked and hope you can come to a resolution. Good luck.
17 Aug 18 by member: broncomba
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I am sorry for the difficult time you are going through. 🙏🏻
17 Aug 18 by member: lynowen
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Be strong, make the right decision for you and your daughter. Recognize that finances likely won't get easier if you split.
My father was a verbally abusive drunk. I broke away from him in my 30s - quit visiting except family occasions. I missed a lot of time with my Mom and brothers as a result, but I felt I had to do it.
17 Aug 18 by member: gz9gjg
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I feel your pain. I’ve been through something similar, but it was around parenting. We’re here for you. Sending hugs❤️
17 Aug 18 by member: LeiLei84
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I was in the exact same thing with my ex. I let her screw me over. By the time the damage was done it was too late to make amends. It's not time to fish. It's time to cut bait. Fwiw.
18 Aug 18 by member: I am Thor
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