Hey lovely lady, this is a tough one as I don't know you personally.
In my opinion, if you're happy with your current choices and your lifestyle (which your smile clearly shows) and it's only to benefit you in a healthy way, then screw everyone else. Sometimes being selfish to be truly happy is the only way.
Perhaps it's just a shock for them seeing you so small and confident.
Stay healthy and happy and keep up the good work! I'm proud of you. 🤗
23 May 23 by member: M3lissa-L33
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So Jasmine, I have had the same experience of people saying I am looking sick I am too thin I am making it an obsession! Truly I was obsessed with looking good and having the six pack and it did drop my weight to an uncomfortable weight where I felt great but looked sick. Where I always said I’m not skinny I’m fit! Although these people saw something I didn’t. I have since picked up 10kgs from that weight, I still feel great I still look in shape and as well it allows so much more flexibility in my diet as when I was 79kgs there was no room for a block of chocolate, now I eat clean in the week and weekends I relax a little and enjoy a chocolate or two hahaha and I love the way I look and feel and my family says I look great, so my advice would be to get to a healthy place where you are happy and don’t chase the scale it can be dangerous, make sure you are happy with a weight and then just maintain.
23 May 23 by member: GeorgeGomez82
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hello. I do t know you. so what I say might not go down well with everyone but when I started I was scared that I won't know when. to stop. so I decides to work out my best weight medically. as far as I researched I should be pretty healthy for my age and height anything between 50 70. this is all medical and maths no opinion. so that is where I will try to stay.
24 May 23 by member: lallie ehr
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Hi Jasmine.
I think, As long as you’re healthy and not too low below your recommended BMI and have healthy eating habits then I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Change is usually uncomfortable for people around us, especially when people have gotten used to how you used to look. As long as you’re medically healthy and exercising healthy habits… 🙏🏾 congratulations on your progress
24 May 23 by member: Leroy Marc
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This is your journey and yours alone. Be honest with yourself if you have developed a problem, at the end of the day it’s you that’s going to sit with the issues of not enough nutrition. Id suggest joining lean girl, her recipes are amazing and you eat like a Queen. All your macros are worked out per meal so you don’t have to think. It’s changed my life. I lost 30kgs only eating 1200 calories. Then I started with my fitness journey 8 weeks ago and have used lean girl since. She has a calculator you can work out what amount of calories you are supposed to eat a day according to your weight, length, age and activity level. I no longer get comments like “you are too thin now” because I am getting lean
24 May 23 by member: CarlaNau
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I had this before when I lost weight. but it's not really about what people say, it's about how you feel about yourself and if you know you're not doing it in an unhealthy way then you do you!!
24 May 23 by member: nickyg06
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They are used to seeing you a certain way and having lost the weight is an adjustment for them which will take time I always smile when my friend and sister in law are appalled by the fact that their BMI says they should weigh what my weight is currently... they say... imagine what I would look like! Well, you would look like me and I really am not skinny. It's a mind set off of what their normal is.
24 May 23 by member: Stadsuz
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Its going to be a mixture of care and jealousy. Everyone wants to lose weight, Everyone wants to see the results.... But some just dont want to put the work into it.
They might also be caring enough to see a problem coming along. I dont know what youre weight is, or goals are, but check out what your BMI should be, and try to get around that.
Personally, My marker for too thin is seeing ribs. Once you can see them, the person needs some assistance. But that is just me
24 May 23 by member: marbroza
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I am 1.70 cm tall. Arms and legs of a giraffe 🙂. Many of my work colleagues and family ask: Why do you want to lose weight, you dont look overweight at all? It's for me and it's about me and I am doing it safely and responsibly. 4 years ago I lost 15kgs I know that I was nowhere near an anorexic eating disorder however I did have many comments thrown my way. People will always have something to say if you lose weight and when you gain the slightest weight. At the end of the day it's about you not them. Just do it safe and know when to stop. This time around I am less hard on myself and enjoying the journey.
24 May 23 by member: Angelaweightloss17
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Hi All. FIRSTLY, thank you for all the input!! It is comforting to know that I am not alone.... My BMI is currently 24.8, so (Marbroza, no ribs yet!!!) I can understand their worries as I have a very addictive personality, and this time round, this journey has been lots of fun for me! It's honestly the first time that losing weight hasn't been stressful.
I've upped my calories to 1600 (from 1400) just to slow everything down a little. The fact of the matter remains about the last 5 kgs.... I want to lose them, and I don't think I'll be too thin if I do, as my BMI will be 23.1 at my goal weight.
I know that I am eating correctly, and exercising as much as my 24hour day allows me (which is usually not more than 4-5 hours a week).
But obviously the comments (especially from loved ones) are a bit hard to swallow. However after these comments, I definitely feel less guilty about these negative comments.
All I can say is...
WATCH THIS SPACE!
24 May 23 by member: Jasmine.love
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24 May 23 by member: CarlaNau
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Been thinking about you all day and how your story hit home for me years back. I truly believe whatever you decide you will make the right decision for yourself. 🤗
24 May 23 by member: Angelaweightloss17
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One thing that I realised is that people will make comments on your body regardless of how you look.
For years I was at a healthy weight and had a body I had no reason to dislike, but people always said that I was too thin. This started a pattern of binge eating that made me overweight. In the process of becoming overweight (because it doesn’t happen overnight) it didn’t seem that the kilos I was putting on made any difference on how negatively people spoke.
Eventually when I hit 75kg (I’m 170m tall) I realised that I didn’t like being heavier and that people would comment either way. I’m currently 10kgs down and I still want to lose another 5kgs.
My goal now is to look at my body and love what I see. Whatever people think about how you look is THEIR business, not yours. As long as you have a healthy goal and you aren’t using unhealthy methods to get there, DO WHAT YOU WANT! THE BODY IS YOURS AND IT’S FOR YOU TO LOVE!
24 May 23 by member: MNomaM
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What is you weight? height? age? % of body fat?
I think it’s typical “south african thing”
I am from different country where almost every women wants to be skinny … it became like a cult of youth ..
I am 34 years old, 170 cm and my weight was 47kg and i was absolutely happy with my body :)) Then after working hard I gained more muscles and became 52-53 kg but still look skinny.
I am nutritionist and check my blood every year and see that i am healthy.. much more healthier than lotsa people at my age also look younger
yes, weight loss should be done correctly to avoid deficiencies but i don’t think usual people know a lot about that and can give you correct advice
don’t feel you did smth bad, you are on a right rack
if you want dm me and we can chat about that :)
25 May 23 by member: elena.nutritionist
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The only person you should take seriously is your GP. All other advice is free, unsolicited or baseless (yes even this and the other comments on here).
If people you trust are showing concern, it might give you peace of mind to consult your GP.
25 May 23 by member: ab123@
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They will always have something to say. I was told i look sick etc. But i am on the right responsible track. Take care of yourself weight loss is not easy.
25 May 23 by member: Johann22016
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@ellenafrica 47kg at 1.7m is NOT healthy. Don't promote that crap here.
25 May 23 by member: Zorev
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I would like to thank each and every one of your for your time and effort to post your opinions on this discussion. I appreciate all the different views and this has definitely helped me make up my mind...
I AM still going to see my goal soon, but Im going to slow it down a little and let my body get used to getting smaller than its ever been.
I must honestly say that I've totally come to love FS, and I feel like I almost personally know certain individuals (Melissa-Lee, GoergeGomez, Angela). You guys are amazing and the support is so welcomed!!!
25 May 23 by member: Jasmine.love
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26 May 23 by member: M3lissa-L33
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i would not suggest ignoring the comments of people who love and care about you. I am 50 in two weeks and I can honestly say that I have been on this roller-coaster for a while. There was a time in my teens where I was borderline anorexic (I would go weigh myself after eating an apple🤣) and if my dad had not told me all he could see of me are my eyes and I need to start eating, I would have been in trouble. If it was only one family member or friend's comment, I would ignore it, but you also mentioned a personal trainer. Maybe get a professional opinion? Your doctor or a nutritionist? It is equally dangerous to be overly skinny as it is to be morbidly obese and trust me...nobody decides "I want to be anorexic "...it creeps up on you without you even thinking about it.I have seen it happen so many times and te destruction it causes.
Short version: Please don't ignore the warnings from people who love you, but consult a professional for answers. 🧡🤗
26 May 23 by member: EllaSm73
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