kickingcarbs's Journal, 26 April 2021

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your hormones are screaming 😱 please take care of yourself men 

Oh Sweetie, I don't mean to add fuel to the fire, but you don't need to lose weight in order to confront the disrespect. Figure out how much of this situation is coming from you and how much is your husband's responsibility. Remember to always be there for yourself. Let the anger cool down before figuring out what exactly needs to be confronted and what can be worked out within yourself. Hope your heart heals soon. ❤ 

💔 Heartbreaking post. Feeling your pain. 🙏 Hoping it will subside so you can focus on yourself and your baby. 🍀 Good luck. 

Yes, I feel your anger and hope you take time to breathe and recognize your beauty. Postpartum is a rough time, and your spouse is being a jacka$$ based on his behavior.  

postpartum is super real and it can make you feel like the world is upside down, yet it's not addressed nearly as much as it should be. your body's hormones are in flux. ask for some help on this.  

So sorry he was such a jerk! 

you'll have a skinny ass to.  

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Use that anger to lose the pounds -- best revenge is slimming down to a smokin' bod! 

Understandable that you're angry. Most men are usually attracted to more than one woman and the women can look very different. That said, it's his job not to make it so obvious, not embarrass you or overstep boundaries, regardless of your weight right now.  

Like someone already said use that anger to make those pounds fall off. Let’s see if your husband will like other woman if he really sees how good you’ll look when you lose weight. Cheer up! ❤️ 

Good that your determined. And wise for using indignation as a tool to spur you on. But think about this please. You bore his child. You both made a vow to each other and God, and marriage is not meeting each other half way. It is 200% from each. To cover a lapse, a weakness (one being addressed to resolve), and a whole lot of self control along with tender compassion and kindness. Now. Why say the above? Well you Are going to achieve your goals. But that in itself does not garauntee his behavior will change. So why not supplement your journey with motivating heart to heart discussions. I'm not a counselor. But i do have the best guidance from the Only handbook to test time and all cultures. So give it a try.  

This is not about her skinny little ass or you getting one. You are actually trying to raise two children if your man can’t police himself. He has commitment issues and does not know the difference between right and wrong. Give him a couple chances to get it right and if he doesn’t, lose the loser. Continue with your own plan for your family and your weight loss.  

Hormones are raging...you will slim baby weight off, hormones will regulate...shake that right off! U are very attractive young lady....men sometimes can be insensitive and jerks... 

I agree with 60 pack as well. I don't think most men are attracted to other woman, at least not the decent ones. I've never been attracted to another man than my husband and I would never allow competition in my marriage. It's me and only me or I'd be out. This is not to say that I don't know what men are attractive or ugly and same with my husband. You don't suddenly become unable to recognize handsome or beautiful but being actually attracted to the person is a whole other thing, in my opinion. Good luck. Hopefully your hormones are causing you to overreact a bit and it isn't what it seems. 

Just read Erquiaga's and evidently it's happened before? That's terrible. Also -Your size does not determine your worth! 

60pack, Erq, DP are right. Call him out on it! "I do" means commitment & responsibility!! 

You are going through so much right now, I feel for you. Post partum depression is real. Right now he should be your rock, your emotional support. I pray he changes, just as the saying goes...you can't teach and old dog new tricks. Adults rarely change their ways, but it's not impossible. Put him aside for now and focus on you and your baby. You both need it more than his clueless, selfish self.