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Well, It's been a while since I've been here. Things have been..........crazy. My 2 year old and I spent last week at my Parents house. The idea of the visit was to help my Mom & Dad (along with myself) to get back on track with diet and exercise. My Mom has been very sad since she gained her weight back. She is only 5'1", so just a little weight makes it feel like a lot. Well, she doesn't really get any support from my Dad. He's the one that really needs to watch. His family history is full of heart problems and diabetes. But nothing went as planned. My Dad made excuses to why he wouldn't walk with us and everything. He said he had to check email and do his pictures. I guess the computer is more important to him at times. At least that is what it seems like. So I finally asked him to support Mom. She really needs it. Not only for her happiness, but for her health. Her family history isn't that great either. He told me ok, but nothing yet. Well, at least Mom & I got some exercise in that week. It showed too. I'm back on the down. 146 today!! My parents live in a small town that is really great to walk or jog in. Everything is straight and flat. I was really glad to get a few days of jogging in. It felt really good.
We came home Thursday night, and had a busy day Friday. Everything was going well, until Friday night. I started having heart palpitation. Nothing big a first. I have had a few before, but they have always gone away. Not these ones. Saturday was a yucky day, and by Sunday my Husband ended up taking me to the ER. And of course, they found nothing wrong. I really don't want people to think that this is made up. This morning, the same thing. More palpitations. My husband says it's stress. The doctors said it can be stress, the medications that I'm on for infertility, or hormones. I have an appointment with a doctor on the 30th. Probably for them just to tell me to relax or go see a cardiologist. I just want everything to be back to normal. So we can get back into exercising and stuff.
Sorry to bogg everyone down. I'm just frustrated! And I'm having one of those days, that you know you're not fat anymore, but still feel like you are. These are the days that makes me scared that I'm going to overdue it with the comfort food.
If anybody has any suggestions on how I can get my parents to work together on a healthier lifestyle. Please let me know. I thought about using their only grandchild against them, but I couldn't bring myself to do it. She's only a 2 year old little girl and is not a guilt trip.
Thanks for listening!
Diet Calendar Entry for 23 June 2008:
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331 kcal
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Fat: 5.40g | Prot: 10.03g | Carb: 63.71g.
Breakfast: Life Cereal. Lunch: Light Restaurant Style Tortilla Chips, Tequila Lime Salsa. more...
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Hi Albright! Nice to see you post! Been wondering where you have been lately. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do or say to your father to make him want to start loosing weight or even be supportive of it, if he hasn't been supportive in the past. As you know, its something that he needs to come to terms with on his own. Your mom, however, sounds like she's ready to make a difference...but that's difficult when you have someone who isn't supportive. When I was married to my ex-husband, I would start a diet, and he would sit there and eat a whole container of Ben & Jerry's ice cream in front of me even though I asked him repeatedly not to do that because I was weak. I remember waking up early one morning and I started the Bill Phillips Body for Life Challenge. They send you these inspirational tapes of other success stories. The people all talked about supportive spouses and life coaches, and how that got them through it. I remember crying while I was on the treadmill watching all these, as my (ex)husband slept upstairs and didn’t lift a finger to support my efforts. Hopefully your dad will want to get healthier once he sees your mom doing it. All you can do is support your mom. How about introducing her to Fatsecret? There's tons of support on here! In fact, hubby and I just got his mom to join (Flowerpower).
I'm on fertility meds too, but haven't experienced any heart palpitations. I have felt anxious though, and I attribute that to all the stress in my life (fertility, parents contemplating divorce). I'm going to ring in with your husband and say its probably stress induced. All you can do is take care of yourself, maybe go for a massage, go out with girlfriends, just have a "you" day, and try to put the other stuff aside, not too mention, stress is not good for baby making! =) Have a great day and nice to see you on again! =)
23 Jun 08 by member: Cheeks
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My father, too, is obese and has a family history of heart disease. I'll come over, make my parents a really healthy dinner, my dad will have some tiny portion because he says he's dieting, and then he'll be in the kitchen noshing out on everything from Peanut Butter to ice cream at 11pm. I am completely sympathetic, but agree that until your dad is really ready to change his life, nothing you or your mother can say will do a damn thing.
23 Jun 08 by member: All That Baby Weight!
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This is challenging, but, per the previous posts you can't control anyone other than you. That being said - you can lead by example and just asking your Dad if he would like to join you for a walk regardless of if he joins or not is an excellent thing. Your Mom need be able to stay on track regardless of your Dad's level of support. He may just not be ready to give support.
I have a "lack of support" person in my life (my mother in law) and for a long time I let her non-support undermine me. I even resorted to getting her to join WW with me, and still she can manage to do all manner of non-supportive things like serving high fat meals and sending cakes over in case we are hungry ;-). I now try to anticipate whatever non-support is coming my way and focus on what I can do for myself to not have it have an impact on me. I know - easier said that done. But I remember my mother always said "if it si going to be - it is up to me!"
Good luck and enjoy yourself with your two year old.
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Thank you all for the wonderful posts and support. You guys are great! --Julie
23 Jun 08 by member: Albright777
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