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For me losing weight is never easy, and it has gotten to a point where its not just needing to loose 10-15lbs, to be at a healthy weight for my height I need to loose 45 + lbs. I don't know if I will ever get there. I know that the weight does not just affect my physical health but also my emotional health too. I am almost 31 years old and still very single. I am not sad because I am alone I am sad because I don't feel comfortable with someones hands on my body because of my weight. I have always been overweight its just as the years have gone on and I have put on more weight it has been harder to become intimate with someone. I think all of these feeling are compounded because my little brother is getting married in a few weeks and while I am extremely happy for him and love the woman he is marring, I am not looking forward to my uncles and aunts telling me "some day you will find the right person", I know they will say this because at the last family wedding just last summer that were their words. The wedding is about my brother and not me and I am so happy for him but I really hate the idea that other people will be feeling sorry for me instead of just focusing all of their love and joy on the bride and groom.
There is a lot in my head to get over. Working towards a peaceful mind.
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163.5 lb
Lost so far: 15.5 lb.
Still to go: 43.5 lb.
Diet followed reasonably well.
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losing 0.7 lb a week
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Take this time to focus on you. Make small goals so it's not so overwhelming. Don't put a time limit on it. Making changes takes time. Get your diet in place than add in activity. Exercise can help you both physically and mentally. As you gain confidence and feel good about yourself, you can start trying new things and will meet new people. Don't worry about others. Make this your "me" time. When you are single you can do what you want, go where you want, etc. Being married with kids sucks a lot of your time and energy (in a good and bad way, lol!) Sometimes I really miss being single. Check out a book on Amazon.com called "Becks Diet Solution". It's not a diet but shows you ways to change how you think about food and your behaviors. Losing weight isn't easy for any of us. Good luck~
01 May 14 by member: Suzi161
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Good luck on building your confidence and inner strength. The process of self-discipline is a part of loving yourself--giving your body and soul what they truly need. It is very difficult feeling "untouchable" for lack of a better word, and all of the discomfort and self-loathing that accompanies that feeling. I know from experience. Again, I wish you luck :)
01 May 14 by member: marissastewart
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