20's with 25-50 lbs to Lose

Hey everybody!

I'm new to this site and came across this group and it's a perfect fit! I was just curious how many of you have had experience with a room-mate or friend that seems to be trying to sabotage your efforts? I work really hard to stay on track and my room-mate always wants to go out to eat, or fix really bad meals. I don't want to just not go out or seem rude if I turn down a meal.Any advice?

I have had this experience and its very hard. The best advice I can give is when you do go out don't drink alcohol or high sugar drinks its easy to order water or diet or unsweetened ice tea. Also order something healthy soup or salad or a meat and vegitable in place of the pasta or potato side dish. You just have to do your best to make healthy choices. Remember the only person who controls what you eat is you not your roomie.

Try your best! My mom keeps buying cake and I want to shake something! Haha.

Don't think it's rude to turn it down. You're doing something good for yourself. I'm lucky that my boyfriend and my best friend both eat healthily, my best friend is trying to lose weight, I think my boyfriend is just trying to be healthier even though he's very fit. But it's not rude to turn down unhealthy food - so don't feel guilty about it. You have to view it like, it's your body - you don't want to fuel it with garbage.

My best friend is a guy and he was kind of supportive at first but he likes to come over and we cook a lot. Maybe I am being annoying by constantly talking about how many calories things are and checking every item at the store before I buy it, but I find him rolling his eyes a lot while I'm talking about food choices and how many calories were in the dinner we just consumed. Sometimes, I swear he's about to yell, "Give it a rest already!" He also eats incredibly unhealthy and drinks a lot of soda and once in a while he'll talk me into eating something I probably shouldn't.

I know turning down food can be looked at as rude, and at large social gatherings I don't like to announce I'm on a diet so maybe just do smaller portions of the things that your roommate is cooking or join her for a dinner out but order a salad?

I just try to keep thinking about how good I'm going to look and how great I'll feel in a few months while he'll be the same junk food-eater. Cheers!

Are you kidding me? My workout buddy is also my drinking buddy! We're each other's motivators and enablers. We have a good time. But we're working on it. ie: we went out to karaoke last night in a bar. We drank, but had sushi beforehand instead of eating at the bar. Small steps!

my roommate is my boyfriend.. and eve3rytime i feel like im doing so good he mentions dairy queen or popeyes or something similar and ive started saying go with out me.. but not always, but when i do go i try to get the smaller thing or the thing better for me. because i need to take care of myself no one will do it for me!

I don't think my roomate is trying to sabotage me but she does frequently say 'oh you eat so little' 'there's hardly anything on your plate' and I'm really not one to starve myself so my plate is usually loaded up with grilled vegies, a salad and some meat. It's just so anoying cause I don't know what to say back cause she can clearly see there's enough food on there. grrr x