minotaurinosky's Journal, 18 April 2014

stalling out on weight loss. lots of stress from my family (my mother makes me wnt to curl up in a ball and cry almost daily), and i have one friend whos a bad influence food-wise. just gotta buckle down and get back on track by monday.

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People can only make you feel bad if you let them.  
18 Apr 14 by member: jparlett
Why not turn it around and become the "good" influence on that one friend? Something that has helped me when things started to "stall out" is to look at it as an opportunity to prove to yourself that you can maintain the weight that you have lost. I can totally relate to stress but for different reasons. Stress can be used to help you lose weight. Try taking a walk when you are stressed. That way you get fresh air and seclusion. Personally, I have taken to riding a bike when stressed. ( stationary one for the winter) It's amazing how good I feel and quickly my issues seem to vanish. (at least for the time I am riding)  
18 Apr 14 by member: jgentry712
The challenging people in your life are the ones with the problems. Rise above the fray and know what they are doing is foolish, hurtful and wrong due to THEIR own issues, not yours. Do not believe what they advise or say, but do and believe what you know to be best. For every positive person or action there are a dozen people who want to stop you or tear you down because your actions make them look less (less positive, less active, less wise, less value as a person). They don't want you to succeed because it will show them up, make them seem less wise, less productive. They want you in their pack of losers and not for you to move forward to better and greater achievements. Just step over them on your journey and don't give them another thought. Stay strong and true to yourself, you are "all that".  
18 Apr 14 by member: Den4me
Just say no! Somehow when you are tempted to eat something not on your plan, saying "no thank you" and turning it down makes you feel empowered. Some folks don't want to see you succeed. I once worked with a skinny old lady who, when she saw I was dieting and losing weight, pointed out everyone on our shift who had lost a lot of weight and then regained it. Folks like these tend to undermine your efforts. Don't let them. 
18 Apr 14 by member: diehard3
I am not sure if you have the fat secret app on your phone. I use it daily. I usually plan my meals in advance and that helps. When a friend or coworker tempt me with something I try to put it in my meal plan for the day. Sometimes it works and a jump on it, but when I actually see the numbers and they are too high and blow my entire diet for the day (especially when there is enough fat or carbs to last 3 days) it makes it easier for me to say no. And if it is something I really am craving I try to find a way to squeeze in at least one bite on another day with one of my kids or someone else to eat the rest so I am not tempted. I actually find that by the time I get it figured out I'm over it and I move on without it. I know it sounds silly, but it works for me! 
21 Apr 14 by member: Sherri Hill
Wow, if it were as easy as most everyone posted here I'm sure you'd do it right? Do you still live with your mother? Just asking because you look young. I will pray for you to overcome these challenges. I know it isn't easy and what you need isn't to hear Suck it up! I care about you and I want you to do this fir yourself. You are worth it! You have value in this world no matter what anyone else says or does. 
21 Apr 14 by member: Kris AZ
Need motivation from time to time? Read "Grain Brain" by Dr. David Perlmutter.  
21 Apr 14 by member: cpmodem
Ah, "family" -- the OTHER F-word. 
21 Apr 14 by member: notjune1
I have heard the comment "people can only make you feel bad if you let them" before. What I know about that is I often don't have the level of detachment required to put that phrase into action. For a long time I didn't know how to detach enough to stop feeling bad by outside forces. It takes practice, knowing you can actually do it and then finding some tools and support people who have achieved this level of detachment to help when I am feeling powerless about changing my ability to let others make me feel things I don't want to feel. Learning to use detachment is a useful skill because then we can recognize when things are not serving us and consciously do what it takes to make changes. It is simila rto the skill we are all learning about being mindful of just what it takes to gain health and lose weight. It 's all about what we do and the mindset we need to have to achieve positive changes. Best of luck to you. we are all learning and gaining support together. J  
21 Apr 14 by member: JovialJ
It is about not letting the reactive influences in you have the control. You can feel the feelings and emotions not let the emotions empower the thoughts and actions they may bring up in you. It is not detachment in my mind. You still feel. It is not stuffing the emotions. I oversimplified and obscured what I really should have written before. http://www.unfetteredmind.org/ does a much better job explaining it than I do. 
21 Apr 14 by member: jparlett

     
 

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