MusicMom123's Journal, 25 February 2009

Sorry you're going through this. I'll PM you. 

Let me say this...mediate on forgiveness.. forgivness is a choice we must make every day..We choose to forgive whetcher we feel like it or not. It's a decision, not a FEELING. If we wait for good feelings, we could end up waiting a liftime. I know you are saying Melle, forgiviness is not easy..of course not..never is. Sometimes it feels downright impossible in light of the devastating and horrendous pain we have suffered. Ask God to give you a heart of forgivness. Pray for your ex in all the ways you can think of to pray. It's amazing how God softens our hearts when we pray for people. Our anger, resentment, and hurt turn into love. Don't worry, however. When we forgive someone, it doesn't make them RIGHT or JUSTIFY what they have done. It RELEASES them into GOD's hand so He can deal with them. Forgivness is actually the best REVENGE because it not only sets us FREE from the person we forgive, but it frees us to move into all GOD has for us. Our forgiving someone doesn't depend on them admitting guilt or apologizing. If it did, most of us would never be able to do it. We can forgive no matter what the other person does. I know it's alot to take in, but its possible, if it wasn't God would of never said it was. Reflect on MATTHEW 5: 44-45..Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, pray for those who spitefully use you and persute you, that you may be sons and daughters of your Father in heaven. Be Encouraged!!  

You are beautiful and you are better than anything he has ever put you or your children though. Don't let him be your reason to fail, let him be your reason to prove to yourself you can do better than he ever gave you credit for ;-) Keep you head up and I am here if you need me ;-) XOXO 

I have been there all too many times. I will be going along fine and dandy and then my ex will pull some stunt-usually involving something that either does or will hurt my kid-and I LOSE it! It is such a hard place to be in! I truly understand the frustration and the feeling of helplessness. The only thing I can say is that when my son got a little older it became easier. I finally told the ex he was no longer allowed in my home after his last stunt. It is ok to put out boundaries for your own sanity and I hope in time you will be able to do so. {{{{{HUGS!!!}}}} 

My sons father sucks at life, it just makes me want to go that much farther to prove to myself that I am the better person ;-) Hugs to both of you 

I soooo fell what you are going through. I have an ex also and when they stress you out you wanna eat. But you do have to forgive it took me over a year to figure that out. I would think to myself why does he treat his new wife and kid so much better? But then i have to realize he doesnt, and forgive and get on with my life. When i done that i lost lots of weight, got smaller thani ever was with him and his new wife, drove him crazy by becoming her best friend and now i am married and have a way better life than i ever did with him. FORGIVE and let God handle him and bless you! YOu will get through it!  

I just got back to this post, and have to say a HUGE THANK YOU to everyone who commented... Melle, your words are so wise and Christ Filled, that is awesome, and yes, I do agree with praying for him, I do most times, but sometimes forget... and Amrossi, Dawn, and Dana, you are all so awesome for sharing... I ADORE YOU !!!! MY SISTERS HERE !!! Thank you for the encouragement... Life is just too short. I do forgive him, I do. However, I do not "like" him. I can go on, but the truth of the matter is that I have so much more going for me than ever before, and I am so Blessed to be married now to a WONDERFULLL guy who adores me for ME and will NEVER leave me or hurt me as I had been in the past. It took me a long LONG time to learn to trust, but after 6 years I have finally given my heart to this man. and I am so happy. Ups and Downs will always be there, BUT RESPECT is the key.... and he ADORES my children... AND goes to Church with me... What more could I want ? :) Blessings and Peace... Thank you again ! I will have to drop each of you a note soon. XOXOXOOXOXOXXO