I Have a Fat Depressing Secret to Share

Do u wanna know MY FAT SECRET? I threw a party 3 weeks ago (May 5th) and nobody showed up. NOT ONE DAMN PERSON!!!! Well guess what happened to my self-esteem? Now guess what happened to ALL THAT FOOD AND SODA AND DRINKS I BOUGHT FOR ASSHOLES WHO CALLED THEMSELVES FRIENDS???? I ATE ALL OF IT BY MYSELF!!!!! I ATE AWAY THE PAIN! I ATE AWAY THE EMBARASSMENT, I ATE AWAY THE OLD SAYING, "WASTE NOT WANT NOT!" I ATE BECAUSE I PAID FOR IT!!! I ATE BECAUSE IT WAS GOOD!!! I ATE AND NOW IM PAYING FOR IT!! I HAVE NO FRIENDS AND NOBODY CARES ABOUT ME THATS WHY I ATE!!!!

I'm sorry to read about your hardship. Sadly, I don't think any words can really comfort much, and surely nothing I could do could "fix" such an experience. What a bummer. I fully understand that it's easy in such a situation to simply let go and not care.
However, situations like these can sometimes - after we have suffered through the letdown - be what we need to get us going. Use the disappointing experience as a drive to "show them".
Show them that you're better than that. Show them that you're worth people's while - but maybe that THEY aren't the friends that you need. Be better than them. Smarter than them. Better organized than them. And, yes, better looking than them.
Use the anger, make it your drive. Now's the time.
You have your info hidden, so I can't see whether you're progressing or not, but I hope you're already on your weight loss journey. That's the first step. You already have the best tools in the world - FatSecret - and the best support community in the world - FatSecret - so use it, and win this one. It may take time, but if you really want to do this, you can.
Enjoy the journey - it can be an amazing experience. It sure has been one for me.

Keld.

I am sorry to hear that you 'friends' are such assholes. I say ignore them and find new friends at the gym or by volunteering somewhere. I agree with Kingkeld that you should channel your anger into doing something to better yourself. If that means getting healthier, awesome; if not, maybe getting a new hobby will help raise your self-esteem.
Good luck in whatever you choose and remember that we are always here at FS if you need to vent some more.

I would do exactly the same thing. Absolutely. And I'd feel bloody awful. And then I'd get revenge. Those people are not your friends, so just let them go. See this as a terrific opportunity to trim some of the fat off your LIFE. Start living for yourself, and trust me, the happier and healthier you get, the more people will gravitate to you, and they'll be good, loving friends, who give as much as you do. And when you're rocking out, the assholes will regret having undervalued you. =)

I'm very sorry for what happened to you. I'm sure you've learned some very good things from this incident, 1 of them being: Next time you throw a party tell all of your guests that they each have to bring a dish. That way if nobody shows up, you arent left there alone with all that food. Hang in there.

I completely understand this. We are two peas in a pod. To say that I do not have a good support system would be an under statement. BUT we need to keep on with doing right for ourselfs and forget those ney sayers. They are only another anchor that we don't need. My mom used to tell me "You will know who your real friends are because when it gets thick the people who are not true friends will thin out." I think my mom was trying to tell me was not to put my feelings on the line unless the person I befriended is a good proven friend, and keep everyone else as an accquaintance. Always remember that we are all looking for something more. Food helps temporaraly but that not what we truely need. I wish for you all that you need to accomplish this goal and know that we are all here in the same boat.

I'd like to thank you all for taking the sweet time to share your thoughts and words of encouragement. Honestly, I didn't think that anyone would notice my post and this is why I am just now seeing that I've gotten some responses.


All of you are wonderful people and although it was several weeks ago when I posted that sad experience, I'm pleased to say that I'm on the up and up with life. I've put those pathetic "so called friends" behind me and have started to get myself back on track with eating right.

I will try to figure out how to open upn my profile page the public. I'm sorry I didn't realize that my progress information was hidden. Please befriend me, ALL of you! I would love that!

Peace everyone,
Magicmouth

Cheers to you! I go through that same thing every Halloween. All my so called friends know Im having a Halloween party, and I'll be danged if only the true close ones show up. And what really gets me is the ones that dont show up are always the ones pushing me to continue to have them. This is the year I'm not going to bother with it, and honestly those that didnt show up arent my friends any way, not anyone I would trust to be there in a time of need. Yep, I too need better friends. Of course they dont effect me one way or the other about my health wants and needs...I do that for myself and they can go on their merry way.

When you feel like you have no friends - - that's the most important time to respect yourself, take care of yourself, and be a friend to yourself. So easy to say, so hard to do.

Your story hit home with so many on here, I know.

friends? what is that?