Personal Question... How do you see yourself?

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KayseaLove

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Posted: 09 Jul 2013, 14:25
I am wondering how you see yourself? When I was younger I was skinny and I saw myself as fat. When I got older and became fat, I would think I still looked skinny and when confronted with a mirror or any other type of reflection - I would freak out a little because my body image wasn't the same as the one I saw in my head. Does anyone else do this? Seeing yourself differently than you actually are? How do you know what you really look like?
kkd1125

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Posted: 09 Jul 2013, 14:59
This is a GREAT question and something I think about often. I have always felt and seen myself as thinner than I really am, but when I see pictures of myself that's when the reality of my size hits me. I personally labeled it as "reverse anorexia" (even though I know it's not on par with the disease, it's what I called it in my head). Even when I look in the mirror, I think I tend to focus on my upper body and face more and think I look pretty good. But in pictures, I can't believe how big my lower body is. I think if all I had to go by was how I felt and the mirror, and never had to see pictures of myself, I would be more content with my body.

I also always compare myself to other plus size women. I ask myself, "Am I her size? Bigger? Smaller?" I know it's not helping to compare myself, but if I see myself differently in person compared to pictures, how do others see me in comparison to other women?

I'm excited to be moving in the right direction and I'm really looking forward to liking what I see in pictures, too.
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Posted: 09 Jul 2013, 15:00
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mars2kids

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Posted: 09 Jul 2013, 15:12
When I was younger and 115 lbs I thought I was fat. And now, I have my days where I think I'm good and other days where I think I'm flabby. Pictures are what get me. I tend to focus on the things I don't like, like my flabby arms, instead of the intent of the picture, to make a memory of a good time or whatever it may be.

When I'm consistently working out and eating well, even if the number on the scale isn't dropping, I feel like I look good, but when I'm not exercising and my eating is bad I feel like I look bad. So, I guess if you feel like you look good, don't give up that feeling. If you feel healthy and are doing healthy things for yourself and that makes you think of yourself as a hot mama, then you are. I'm trying to go more by how I'm feeling than how I think I look, because I'm my own worst critic.
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Spacey47

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Posted: 09 Jul 2013, 15:37
I posted a while back that I once sort of freaked a bit when I looked at myself in the mirror and realised how much I had physically changed.....in a good way

It still weirds me about a bit to this day when I wake up in the morning and touch my chest and rib cage and I stomach and it feels so different to , what it felt like for literally decades so much .less of me......in a good way Smile
Sort of really really weird and what has probably caused the most comment is my face shape

I always have had a roundish face now it's far more angular lean with a more distinct chin, cheek bones ..it's not what I have been used to seeing ......in a good way
CJT1217

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Posted: 09 Jul 2013, 16:09
I think for most of us, we'll always remain our own worst critic. I know I'm way better than what I was, but I still give myself a hard time for not being as lean as I'd like to be. But in reality, I'm only 10 lbs over the goal, so I'm not sweating it as much Smile All about perspective!

Stay the course, stay on point, stay motivated, dedicated, and you won't be stopped. Discipline. Perseverance. Focus. Dig deep and you will be victorious.
skirch97

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Posted: 09 Jul 2013, 16:46
I second Mars! I know I am my own worst critic. Some days I look in the mirror and really like what I see, others days, I notice every flaw (what I think is a flaw) however I know that I have reduced fat and built muscle and try to focus more on that.

For the most part I like how I look, but I have a bad habit of assuming other people look at me and think I should lose more weight and I need to forget that and really not care what others may think and just feel good in my own skin! The more healthy I get the easier it is to feel good in my own skin.
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mummydee

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Posted: 09 Jul 2013, 19:17
Wow, what a great post!! when i was young i was a skinny minny, i wore long sleeve tops in the summer cause i hated my boney arms and full length pants cause i had knobbly knees.... when i was 14 my breast grew huge!! when i looked down all i saw was boobs! i thought i was fat and so my dieting days started. I was not fat at all but those years were the beginning of my bad body image in my head, I might add that this was in the 70's the time of Twiggy. I was always dieting and exercising and no need to. Then after the kids, i did gain weight and my hubby made me feel 10 times fatter than i was. After nursing finished i made it down to 98 lbs dripping wet and he still grabbed my butt and said ' when you gonna get rid of this' . So my body image was completely messed up. I looked like a holocaust victim and i thought i was fat. It has taken many years , and i ballooned up to 180. to get down to a good weight for my height . BUT more important, i'm healthy, No more diets, no fads, just good health wholesome foods andno more aches and pains, no bad body image and a very positive lifestyle now.
I do hope you all can overcome your image issues, one day a time. baby steps, get healthy, weight loss will follow. trust me, it works.
reddarin

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Posted: 09 Jul 2013, 21:10
"How do you know what you really look like?"

I always thought that photographs did a pretty good job of exposing the raw truth heh.

Before I got really fat, and for some time afterwards, I didn't think of myself as particularly fat just a 'big guy'. Big physically rather than big blob.

After I finally admitted to myself that I was fat I mostly avoided thinking about it at all times when possible.

The thing is, once I'd dropped a lot of weight (which didn't take very long on LC) I have never gone long without appreciating that I am not fat any more. In the mirror, wearing a size jean that I never thought I'd ever in a million years wear again (I was in 48/50 and now wear 32s comfortably). Shirts too - 3x/4x before and L or XL (depending on brand but XL kinda drapes on me). Even driving my truck. My big old belly used to actually get in my way a bit sometimes.

Just about everything reminds me that I've lost weight now. I gotta say, it is pleasant to be constantly reminded of how far I've come.

Hmmm. I was a lot more bothered about being fat than I let on to myself lol.
thinner120

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Posted: 10 Jul 2013, 00:54
How do you know what you really look like? Photographs can tell the story but if you are as fat as I am you rarely allow anyone to take photographs.


It is an interesting question. Self image, and
perception can have a major effect on whether a person successfully loses weight. We don't always see what is in the mirror as it really is.

I have always seen myself as "FAT" even when I was very thin and only weighed 112 pounds.When I was a child this name calling started and it carries over into adulthood. .
The labels "FAT", "CHUBBY", "STOCKY", "PLEASINGLY PLUMP", "COW" were used to describe me by family members & people, sometimes strangers, sometimes people I knew. The pain of being fat never seems to go away.

It got to a point where for so long I avoided mirrors so I would n't have to look at myself...like some horrific monster. It is painful to talk about but that is part of the healing process because I am finally addressing the demons, and baggage the goes with being really fat. And I am going to achieve my goal of a healthy weight finally, by the end of this year or the beginning of next year. Please forgive my ramblings.
Stay strong, stay focused.



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Lulu4lolo

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Posted: 10 Jul 2013, 02:44
Before i had a baby i was 160 pounds and i was exercising eating healthy so i loved my body, after the baby I was 211lbs felt depressed and huge, i just felt like an elephant. I tried to eat right and exercise Im currently 180lbs but i still dont love what i see in the mirror and what happens in the fitting room so i still feel huge
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mummydee

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Posted: 10 Jul 2013, 03:04
baby steps.... you have a beautiful babe to take care of and that's the most important thing in the world. Get healthy and the weight will follow. your child deserves that. it will come off, maybe slower than you'd like, but hey, so what... it will happen.
thinner120

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Posted: 10 Jul 2013, 11:02
Lulu4lolo wrote:
Before i had a baby i was 160 pounds and i was exercising eating healthy so i loved my body, after the baby I was 211lbs felt depressed and huge, i just felt like an elephant. I tried to eat right and exercise Im currently 180lbs but i still dont love what i see in the mirror and what happens in the fitting room so i still feel huge


You are making amazing progress. And you will get there. It is a hard thing to do but we all have to try to find physical features we like about ourselves even though we aren't feeling so beautiful at the moment-it might be painting your toenails it might be a new hairdo or makeup.It has taken me a long time to learn to boost myself, and essentially love myself enough to overcome the fat that covers up the "real" me. It takes work but you can do it too!!

Stay strong, stay focused.



Start weight 259 pounds. GW 175 pounds. Ultimate goal: 120 pounds. Current: 223 pounds

"The food will always be there. Anything I want so badly will still be there tomorrow." Pam Turner

"The only reason you will never lose weight is if you quit trying." Kim Benson
almostretire...

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Posted: 10 Jul 2013, 11:48
This is an awesome post....back in the day (before menapause) I weighed 115 pounds wet and could eat anything and everything...and still to me I was "fat" and that is what I saw in the mirror. I was envious of my neighbor who weighed over 300 lbs but would go outside and mow her lawn in a swimming suit - she told me she saw me when she looked in the mirror - weird because I saw her. I have never been comfortable in my own skin....hopefully this will pass with age!
Start Weight: 157.6 (7/7)
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cathi525

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Posted: 10 Jul 2013, 12:36
Well I started @ 285 and am down to 186 but still dont feel comfortable in my on skin and alot of skin I have. I think i might feel better if i could lift a few things that sag!!
cathi525

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Posted: 10 Jul 2013, 12:37
I still see the bigger woman whenI look in the mirror. some days I feel slimmer, most I dont.
Roblaw2b

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Posted: 23 Jul 2013, 08:19
LOL.. interesting post. When I was 22 in University, I couldn't afford food, and rode a bike to school (8 km) and then swam a mile 3 days per week.. and weighed in at a paltry 170 lbs.. and when I looked in a mirror, I couldn't understand why I was so "fat".

3 years later, I was still very active, but could afford to eat, and was up to 200 lbs.. and thought I was obese, and was in a very unhappy marriage where my wife shared that opinion, very vocally - and eventually had an affair, telling me that she lost her feelings for me because of how much weight I had gained.

Fast forward about 20 years. I remarried to a lovely woman, who loved me exactly how I was (235 lbs) and when I looked in a mirror, I was, basically, happy and content. I became active again, competed in several triathlons, including a full Olympic-distance triathlon.. and while my weight dropped slightly, I was still more or less 230 lbs and still happy.

A year ago, I turned 50. And suddenly, in looking at holiday pictures (Greece.. in a bathing suit), I realized that I wasn't healthy even though my wife still loved me just the way I was.. and the final straw was this past May when I looked at more bathing suit pictures from Kona, Hawaii.. and I said, "enough".

Fast forward, three months, and 22 lbs down.. and it's funny. My wife still is great, affectionate, loving.. but while I am noticeably smaller (suits being taken in this week) I still am looking in a mirror and can see, very clearly, how heavy I still am.

The mind is an amazing thing, and will rationalize itself in the oddest ways. I am best to ignore the mirror for the most part and to concentrate on the verifiable "opinion" of my scale!
Roblaw2b

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Posted: 23 Jul 2013, 08:23
btw.. while my profile says I started at 246, I actually weighed in at 248 post-Hawaii.. but when I got back to Fat Secret, and re-started entries, I had already lost 2 lbs.. and apparently, even though I made a "retro" entry of my original weight from a week earlier, it still tells me I "started" at 246. Which for some reason I find frustrating.. Smile
kkd1125

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Posted: 23 Jul 2013, 11:55
That's wonderful, Roblaw2b, that you have a loving wife who loves you at any size and it was YOU who made the decision to change yourself to get healthy. The love of a good woman can do wonders for a man. Hee hee. Wink
riocaz

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Posted: 23 Jul 2013, 13:04
Depends when I look. In the morning I see the flabby skin and I'm depressed. But when I'm dressed and catch the sight of myself in a window I think: "Wow that's me".

42" jeans(25/01/2013) 40"(28/02/2013) 38"(20/03/2013) 36"(25/05/2013)
Down from 60" waist jeans since June 21st 2012.

Still keeping to my 26" jeans, but they are too tight for comfort. too many tasty things in the US, and over Xmas.

Onwards and Downwards! Smile
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