Weird Emotions

Does anyone else become infuriated/annoyed when someone else touches your food to steal a bite? For example, my boyfriend and dad absolutely LOVE to try the food that I cook. When they do, I always develop this extreme anger inside of me!! They always tell me to "share," but I simply can't! They aaren't the ones on the diet, therefore, they don't have portion control like me! I prepare just the right amount, so I like to savor every last bite of my meal. Does anyone else experience this?

Hi there, yes I get the same feelings! My boyfriend can eat what he wants when he wants so it irritates me when he wants the little bit that I am allowed I think he is getting the hint now though.

We actually fought over it last night! Haha at least someone understands

Yes, this was a big issue for me. I live alone now. No correlation, I think since I gave up dieting around the ex...

This is an argument I get into with my boyfriend every single day. He HAS to have bites of every little thing that I'm allowed to have in the day, and it is annoying. What really infuriated me yesterday was he made a huge chicken and cheese quesadilla with a whole bowl of sour cream, and ate the whole thing in front of me, letting me know the whole time how absolutely incredible it was...knowing full well that I was super hungry. Like he was mocking me. I had to go into another room for almost an hour.

If he isnt trying to help you, he is against you. And that is sad, if he is saying he loves you

Nightorchid: I would have been livid if he did that to me!! He called me psycho the other night. Non-dieter... they simply just don't understand! lol But he truly does love me, he just doesn't understand my mentality when it comes to my diet. I'm very food-conscious.

Honestly, I do think you are being overly emotional. It is just food. I freely share with my husband what I eat in the hopes that he will see that it tastes good and eat what I eat to be healthier.

This happened last night! Lol! My fiance stole one of my pita chips (the serving size is only 9) and I got mad. I don't mind sharing, but he darn well can grab one out of the bag if he wants one, not one of the ones I just accounted for in my diet journal. I explained to him I am counting calories and he is stealing from a plate that I have already gone through the trouble of measuring.

He apologized profusely now that he understands how rude that is and I handed him the pita chip bag to snack on as he pleases.

He just needs to let me know he wants some and I will be more than willing to bring enough for him too. But he simply can't have some out of the portions I just measured without asking.

Oh, I am totally with you, Paradox. I mean I'm MORE than willing to prepare the same snack/dish that I am eating for anyone that wants some! Just don't touch mine! lol

I used to feel like that.

Being emotionally attached to food and to eating is a problem. It's the reason a lot of us are fat in the first place. Will one less bite really change anything? No, it's something deeper than that. Would one bite of your BF's food change YOUR diet? No. It's not as exact as that. Examine those emotions. I'm guessing there's something much deeper behind them than just greed for food.

Lots of interesting perspectives here. For the most part I'm with greerp, it's just food. I too am ecstatic when my DH/kids ask to try something I'm eating because I don't force all of my healthy food upon them (all the time, lol).

So if your bf & dad are always doing this, why don't you just prepare extra? It probably wouldn't hurt them to eat more like you & you have no idea how many others here WISH their family members would want to do that. And if they don't eat the extra, package it up for easy go-to meals for yourself the next couple of days.

By the same token, I do kinda get what you mean. There are a lot of foods I buy that I consider "mine" just because no one else usually eats them. If DH & the kids started eating them I might be irritated because they have so many more options than I do when they want something to eat, why eat my stuff?? But it's more important to me that they eat healthier food & if that means I have to buy a big pack of tilapia or Greek yogurt or edamame sooner than I planned, so be it.

@greep - its not that we are being overly emotional at all. If my boyfriend wants to "taste" my food so I can see if he likes it then I will make extra for him so that he doesn't have to take away from my portion that I have allocated myself.

Yeah, my BF and family typically don't have an appetite for the things I eat... so I prepare enough just for me.

Just think.. every time someone takes a bite of your food you are consuming less calories than you originally thought you would!

You made a post about it on a public forum and you don't think you are being overly emotional about it? Like I said before, it is just food. Make more of it then you'll have your perfect portions and your boyfriend or dad will have their taste.

I don't see it as just about food. To me I read this thread and I get angry. It is the pure thoughtlessness by the other half that I see. Preparing food is time consuming, then to weigh and measure then enter it, all to have it go outta whack cause because someone wants a bite. If they want to eat what she is eating, why can't they get off their butts and spend the time in the kitchen themselves? All I see when I read this is a lazy man, unwilling to make his own food. Personally I'm grateful my hubby has no interest in what I'm eating. He's grown, and if he's hungry he can get up and make someone for himself. I'm not his mother, nor his cook/maid.

I agree that this is not about food and encourage BrittNett to look at this in terms of respect; respect others have for her and self-respect. Partners and parents who engage in this type of behavior are childish (playground bullies/teasers), lack respect for others and are emotionally abusive. Those who accept this type of behavior, after clearly making their objections known and having received feedback that others have understood the problem, lack self-respect. I also believe that we can, if there is still work to be done in this area, subconciously choose a partner that brings up our childhood issues in order to get them resolved. Sounds like you've picked a winner BN. Good luck!

This is a routine hot button issue at home, thought the Hubs is learning. Last night he fried the tofu I had factored into my meal plan for my post-workout dinner when he had meat in the refrigerator (I'm a life-long vegetarian, he's an omnivore). I nearly killed him.

LOL because I do this too with some foods.

Especially my vegan pre-prepared things, like no-cheese Amy's pizzas or Lara Bars. Um, those are my healthy vegan treats, go eat your Totinos pizza rolls. Bwahaha

With my cooking, I would LOVE it if my boyfriend would eat my meals, but he hates beans, and most of my meals have beans.